Dealing With Her Tests – How To Gain Instant Attraction
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A great woman will always test you
A woman will always test you. She will test you for your masculinity, she will test for your strength; she will test to see if you’re (still) the man she’s seeks and craves.
Testing men is a woman’s secret tool. She wants you to pass the tests, but she will make it as difficult for you as she can.
To understand this, we have to dig a little into female psychology. We have to know what a woman of a feminine essence wants (masculine women also exists, but their wants and needs are a bit different.)
What a woman wants
She wants a strong man. That means she wants a man with a strong masculine essence. A masculine essence is defined by an ongoing pursuit for freedom – you don’t have to know or understand what that means, just keep it in your mind while reading on.
A masculine man is authentic. And he’s honest. And that my friends, is actually all you need.
If you answer to all her tests with authenticy and honesty, you’re going to pass them. And passing a test is the fast-lane to a woman’s heart (and pussy).
Let’s just be friends
This is probably the most important and most common test of all. Usually, she’s not testing you consciously.
It can come up on the first date, at the tenth, under sex, after two years; it really doesn’t matter. What matters is how you deal with it.
I can remember it quite vividly. I was out on a date with a lovely lady – her name was May. She was half Asian, half Caucasian, a short but really beautiful girl.
We had walked around in a park, hand in hand, for about 20 minutes, until I suddenly felt her energy change. She pulled away, looked at me, and stopped. It didn’t seem real at the time;
“Let’s just be friends.”
I was quite surprised. I was blown away for a few seconds, but then looked into her eyes and said the following:
“You know we can’t, sweetheart. And even if you insist on being just that, I will always chase you. I am attracted, and will be as long as I am in love with you. Come here.”
I grabbed her and kissed her. It was a good kiss, and we never talked about being just friends again. In fact, I think I was with her for about 4 months. It could also have stopped right there in the park.
So why did we continue being lovers and not friends?
I was being honest. I was being authentic. I was being vulnerable. And at the same time, I was being strong.
This might not have been a particularly good example, but it was the first one that came to my mind. It’s all about how I handled it.
I could also had lied both to her and to myself and said that yeah, we could just be friends. That would be “fine”. And I would have continued chasing her – but most likely never gotten her again.
Instead I was being honest and authentic. I spoke from my heart. And it couldn’t have worked better. This works with almost any test a woman can throw at you.
Another common test
Women can often test you early by trying to throw you out of your own “frame”. You could say that you frame is the mindset you come in with. It’s your masculinity. It’s your core. It’s what you work from in every interaction. It’s the underlying theme of everything you do. You’re frame is your reality.
A woman can easily throw a man out of his frame by saying something like “Are you a player?”
If you’re a weak man- a wussy, you’re going to go into a strong defensive position. You’re going to tell her that No! Of course you’re not.
A stronger man is most likely going to do one of the following things:
- Throw it right back at her. Ask her if she’s a typical blonde.
- Tell her that you’re going to answer that question later, and continue the conversation.
- Say that yeah, you play… sports, and continue the conversation.
- Or the easiest one: Just ignore it and continue the conversation.
You see what I’m getting at? The stronger male is not going to step out of his own frame. The weaker man most likely is, and being thrown off like that is not a particularly good sign to send to a woman about all your good qualities.
Buy me a drink
When a woman asks you to buy her drink, it may not be a conscious test from her. She may just want a drink. But you can definitely use it to your advantage.
By knowing what you know now, you won’t step into her reality. You will stay in your own reality (frame), and draw her in.
A really good reply would be to look deeply into her eyes, smirk, smile like the game is on! And say that she can buy you a drink. I can not guarantee you that she will do it, but it’s a much better reply than just doing it. You don’t want to be the guy getting the girls drunk, just so they can go home and sleep with all the other men. Trust me, sitting alone at 4am, without any money, without any women, just memories about the guys they went home with… You don’t want to be that guy!
Instead; be honest. You don’t want to buy her a drink. Actually, it would be kind of nice if she bought you one.
Don’t draw it to the extreme
This does not mean that you should ever do anything for anyone.
If your woman asks you to go out with the trash, you should not say no just for the sake of “staying in your own frame” or some crazy shit like that.
Relationships are built on mutual respect, cooperation, and of course love. And lots of other stuff. That’s not the point.
The point is actually that you should never draw anything to the extreme. It’s all about doing the right thing(s) at the right time. It’s all about calibration.
Personally, I can step out of my own “reality” or “frame” or whatever once in a while to do the dishes. Or go out with the trash. This is a really attractive quality. But that’s just because I want to make life a bit easier for the girl in my life once in a while.
I can also do it without she even asks me to do it – just doing it out of my own free will. I know that she will sometimes do the same. I know that if we have this relationships were we do stuff for each other, I might wake up with a hangover to a freshly made burger. Just because she cares!
So guys, handle all tests she gives you with authenticy and honesy. But don’t draw it to the exteme, and have some common sense while at it.
Remember that tests are a beautiful thing. It lets you stay “on top of your game”. Learn to recognize these tests as opportunities – and then be sure to pass them.
Please do report any thoughts or stories in the comments – and as always, questions are highly welcome.
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