Why Bad Boys Get All the Hot Women, and Nice Guys Don’t Even Come Close
A bad boy is sexy. There’s something about that sly smile; that look in his eyes. He just turns women on wherever he looks.
He moves like an alpha male in the animal kingdom: Relaxed and confident. Almost too relaxed. Almost too confident.
So what exactly defines a bad boy?
In its most simple definition, a bad boy is someone who works outside the norms of society. He doesn’t follow rules, he f**king makes them himself!
It’s really all about the mindset; the attitude. He just doesn’t give a damn.
A bad boy is also incredibly unpredictable. One moment he might be your best friend; the next you’re outside getting your ass kicked. For no reason at all.
His looks witness his personality; adventurous, unpredictable, raw. Exactly what he wears doesn’t matter – it’s the way he wears it that counts.
Typical bad boy traits:
- He always put himself first.
- Does what he wants, whenever he wants.
- He’s extremely arrogant.
- Abuse the people around him.
- He’s really dominant
- Create a lot of drama.
- Has high masculinity.
- Has very high sexual confidence, and he knows how to please a woman.
- He’s dangerous, and you never really know where you have him.
- Lead an exciting life.
- Gets a lot of girls.
And it’s that last trait that’s interesting. Bad boys generally get lots of girls. And even though they treat them like sh*t, they keep coming back… Because the sex is so exciting. And not only the sex:
Everything about the bad boy is exciting. Being with one is like riding a giant roller coaster for a woman; there are incredible emotional highs, and there are incredible emotional lows.
Wussies and nice guys
Wussies on the other hand, are almost the exact opposite. In “pick up glossary”, a wussy can also be called an “AFC” – an Average Frustrated Chump. You could also call him a needy guy, or a nice guy, whatever works for you.
Nice guys generally don’t get girls. And when most nice guys do get laid, they often refer to it as “getting lucky”.
Typical nice guy traits:
- He’s available all the time.
- dresses “nice”.
- Only talks about “death topics” (family, politics, economy etc.)
- Calls 27 times a day, and leaves “cute messages” in her voicemail.
- Compliments her all day long (mostly on her looks)
- His body language is “stiff” (center of gravity in the middle, arms hanging pointlessly at the sides)
- Never takes risks.
- He’s dependable, and she always knows exactly where she haves him.
- Always shows up 10 minutes early.
- Lives a boring, predictable life.
- Doesn’t get a lot of girls. Few to none actually.
- And when he does, she usually ends it with the “let’s just be friends” phrase.
Said in simpler words, a wussy is boring as hell.
And who wants boring? I know for sure that I don’t. My life is too short for boring.
What women really want
A lot of girls feel the same. They want entertainment, someone to have fun with, someone to excite them. They want drama, someone to make them feel!
Most guys don’t make women feel anything else than plain boredom.
If she feels like she’s in complete control over the situation, if there’s no element of excitement, no surprises and if you’re so predictable, she actually knows what you’re going to do before you do it, you become boring. Booooring I tell you.
Don’t let that happen!
So now we have the definitions of both a bad boy and a wussy (or a nice guy).
My guess is that, since you’re reading this, you’re interested in having more success with women.
You know from your own life that lots of the bad guys often get the good girls. Now you have more of an idea why that is.
But you don’t want to turn into an abusive jerk just to get good with women, right? That probably wouldn’t work anyway.
So we have to find a better solution…
What about taking all the good stuff from the bad boys, and ditching all the negative?
Wouldn’t that create the perfect man? I certainly think so.
Because there usually are a lot of negative things to say about the typical bad boy.
He’s usually very paranoid. He is over-protective, controlling, jealous, and basically wants to keep her for himself. These are very negative traits, since trust and respect are the building stones for every successful relationship.
He’s mentally unstable. He’s inconsiderable, selfish and abusive. And once again, the list could go on and on.
Then what IS so sexy about the bad boy?
Most women become addicted. Addicted to the drama, addicted to the amazing sex, addicted to his masculinity and confidence.
For high self-esteem women, one day she can’t take it anymore. She decides to leave, the drama has become too much.
For low self-esteem women on the other hand, they often stick to him like flies stick to flypaper. A lot of women end up getting married to bad boys.
Enough about the bad boys…
Let’s focus on making you better.
The first step is to realize your “bad” nice guy traits, and why they just don’t cut it.
For this to happen, you have to gain some knowledge on female psychology. (There should be a lot of info on this site… Also check out the book review of “double your dating”, where David spends a great deal of time talking about just that.)
The next step is to eliminate your bad traits. This is easier said than done. If you have been a wussy all your life, knocking him out of you easily can take some time, and it needs a lot of self-realization.
At the third step it’s time to pick up some new traits.
The balance between bad boy and nice guy looks something like this:
- You are dominant without being domineering.
- You are masculine without being macho.
- You are forthright and trustworthy.
- You are considerate without being placating.
- You are strong yet gentle.
- You are mysterious without being deceiving.
- You are exciting without being reckless.
- You are sexually exciting in the bedroom and a gentleman in the living room.
I think this explains my point pretty damn good.
Work on creating a more exciting life and personality, work on your confidence, work on your skills… That’s a pretty good start.
Being “the man” is all about being yourself, about being the best you.
Learn from the bad boys, but be careful not picking up their negative traits on the way. That’s the lesson from today guys.
This is a topic I will be writing more about in the future, so stay tuned. And please don’t hesitate to ask in the comments if you have any questions.
To your success with women,
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