Comments on: Why You Should Practice Living With an Open Heart Even If It Hurts

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:33:21 +0000

I feel you Brian, I really do… The friend thing is a b*tch!

I also think that you follow your instinct by not calling her. Stay strong man.

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:11:32 +0000

Just stumbled on your website and thought i would check this article out.
i just got dumped by a young lady cuz she just wanted to be “friends”. ok so im pretty heart broken right now. so ya .. pain.
i really miss her and i want to call her or write her and tell her that.. but when i feel the urge to, something inside says “no…she dumped you, let her go, be a man, leave her alone”…. do you think that is running from my pain?… or is that facing it?… my mind is thinkin about so many things right now.

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 08:41:04 +0000

If you have been closed off for years, just take it slowly. Read some of the articles on here, and apply what you learn.

By: Phil

Phil — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 05:34:28 +0000

I am one of those guys who close myself off and don’t open up to anyone. I’m trying to change it, but it’s not easy after being closed for so many years. Any advice on how to just be more open with people?

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Fri, 24 Apr 2009 15:20:11 +0000

[...] But it’s time to let them in. It’s time to let her in. Open up and welcome the pain. Live with an open heart, even if it hurts! [...]

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 18:27:33 +0000

Hey Frank,

I think I get what you’re saying here. You’re right, it’s just some of the definitions… But we’re generally saying the same thing.

Thanks for pointing (and straightening) it out. Interesting blog, by the way.

By: Frank

Frank — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 16:47:03 +0000

Hey Alex,

in my opinion you mix up some of the truths with falsehood.
On the one hand there’s the denial part of which taking responsibility is definately a progress. It’s when you see yourself no longer as a victim, but recognize your inner strength and actually see that you can have a smart proactive solution for your stimulus response. That’s COUARAGE. And then as your inner strength grows you recognize that all the fear, pride, anger etc is not coming from you, but rather is a reflection of your own ego in others.

You see, an open heart is not about “stand[ing] up for yourself and tak[ing] up the fight” and “to fight fear is to do what you are afraid of”, but you will rather not be afraid anymore and there will be no need for BRAVERY. Because you ARE fearless.

But anyway nice article it was just the definition that bothered me a bit. It’s right backing up and facing the pain is the first thing someone has to learn, or it will criple his life ;-)

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 22:24:35 +0000

Yes Victor, that sure is something to think about…

Thanks for your comment!

By: Victor

Victor — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 09:19:34 +0000

I know personally that every time I have accepted my sadness of the moment, that I came through it feeling much better than if I had ignored it by watching tv shows online (which I do too much). I actually felt really good when I had lost my internet connection for a few days, as I had nothing to distract me from what I was feeling at the moment and I had to face it all. The next day, I felt like a new man. Just something to think about :)

By: Alex

Alex — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 18:23:28 +0000

Thanks guys,

maybe some elaboration till’ next time? ;-)