Why You Should Practice Living With an Open Heart (Even If It Hurts!)
To be a just keep the change man, you have to practice living with an open heart, even if it hurts.
Living with an open heart means that you experience all experiences fully without denying anything. It is like looking fear in the eye – you stand up for yourself and take up the fight.
The weak man
The weak man will always try to deny his pain. Whether it’s emotional or physical, he will always try to think of anything but the pain.
When running, he will distract himself when it starts to hurt. When faced with criticism, he will try to move on, move around it, forget it or deny it. When a weak man loses something, or someone, he will suppress his feelings; his pain. He will look the other way and distract himself.
On the surface, this approach might look beneficial. Pain is bad, so it must be good not to feel it, no? If just it was so simple…
See, pain is a part of life. And when you reject pain, suppress it, deny it, you also reject, suppress and deny life. And on top of that, pain only grows in denial. So when you reject your pain, all you are actually doing is that you make it grow. And it will grow, grow until it eats you up.
A man living with a closed heart will die bit by bit, every single day.
What to do instead
The honest, courageous man, on the other hand, will face his pain. He will see it for what it is, and do with it what needs to be done: live with it.
He will be open to the world and to the people that love him, and his mind and spirit will be strong.
So try this the next time you are faced with something “bad”, like criticism: stand up for yourself. Breathe at all times to open up the front of your body. And listen.
The same thing applies to loss, whether its in love, death or anything that’s in between: take responsibility. Face the pain. Remain open. Whatever you do, you must remain open.
When you practice openness like this, you will start to see that pain and hurt is just as much a part of life as love and light.. You won’t ever get rid of your pain by denying it, so why not learn to live with it?
The funny thing is that there comes a time, where you will realize that the pain, your pain, is gone. It is just like fear: you won’t ever get rid of it before you face it and fight it.
The way to fight fear is to do what you are afraid of.
The way to fight pain is to live with it, with an open heart.
What do you think?
What’s your point of view when it comes to pain – is it best to just see it for what it is, or do you believe in denying or suppressing it? Is there a middle road? Let me know what you think in the comments.
By the way, I’m going to Sweden in an hour, I’ll be back in a few days. Take care guys!