Comments on: Why Self Limiting Beliefs are your Worst Enemy when it comes to Approaching Girls

By: Al

Al — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 00:23:40 +0000

Thanks for this – This highlights exactly why I hate, loathe and despise the phrase ’she’s outta my/your/our/his league’ because it is untrue. Why shouldn’t you or I attract the best girls? (And I mean those beautiful on BOTH the outside and inside rather than one or the other.) What justifiable reason is there? Because if you can find someone like that then why not? If she has a boyfriend already, so what? You may be able to offer her more than she does, because at the end of the day it’s her choice, you’re not forcing her to go off with you.

By: Everett Bonds

Everett Bonds — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 05:52:22 +0000

I was getting to know a really good looking woman. She is hot! I never said those things about myself, she did. I was too old, I was too fat, I was too married. Believe me, I explained to her my marriage was over years ago. We no longe live together. But, she couldn’t get over that. I guess any excuse would do, because I still wear my ring. Not even wife wear hers. Shit. I really like this woman a lot. She means a lot to me. What do I do? Just forget her? I just can’t do that. I will always want her. ev.

By: Alex

Alex — Sun, 11 May 2008 17:59:21 +0000

I agree on identifying the limiting believe is good but not with replacing it. Every time you have a positive affirmation like “I’m too hot” the mind automatically gives you a counter statement “no you are not”

The mind is duality machine giving you two opposite views to every statement you make. The solution is to realize that its just the mind/ego and ignore the mind. Whenever a “not enough” issue comes to the surface just notice it and chose to not identify with it. Realize its just the ego(who doubts everything to cause you pain) and keep doing what you are doing.

By: Alex

Alex — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 13:33:44 +0000

You’re welcome, Uli!

Nice to meet you then :)

By: Uli

Uli — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 21:56:47 +0000

great blog today alex :) been a long time reader, just wanted to stop lurking and say hi!

By: Alex

Alex — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 06:27:04 +0000

Jason,

Definately agree on “perception is the reality”, at least when it comes to dating.

I know for sure that I have never gotten a girl if I didn’t approach her.

Allright, maybe I have been approached a few times in bars etc., but that’s also because women can, as you say, smell confidence.

Always appreciated J. :)

By: Jason

Jason — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 04:00:25 +0000

Perception is the reality. That’s why alot of guys without any good looks still get good looking girls. Women can smell confidence. As you point out, not approaching her will almost certainly get you nowhere 100% of the time.

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 06:24:09 +0000

Thanks Tommy!

Good to hear that you’re over that phase now.

PapaSeanski, you’re right, it actually is pretty selfish. The more you give, the more you get. That’s great.

If you don’t give *anything*, you will never get anything.

If you give a lot, you will maybe not get as much back as you gave… But it’s still better than nothing.

Thanks for your comments guys!

By: PapaSeanski

PapaSeanski — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 19:24:38 +0000

Self limiting beliefs are actually selfish beliefs, because you make everything about yourself. Insecurities are just an excuse not to share yourself with the world, and keep everything inside.

It’s not that you are nervous around pretty women, it’s that you are selfish around pretty women. You refuse to let them get to know you. Drop the ego. The more you give, the more you get.

By: Tommy

Tommy — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 13:20:27 +0000

Hey Alex,

Nice post! Self limiting beliefs are something I have been struggling with for a long time.

I used to think I was too “ugly” and “dumb” for everything.

But then one day, I really sat down and got this part of my life handled.

Now I couldn’t be happier.

Hope guys will take some of your advice, it’s great.