Why Self Limiting Beliefs are your Worst Enemy when it comes to Approaching Girls
“I am not good looking enough to be with her”. “I am too fat”. “I’m not funny enough”.
Self limiting beliefs – your worst enemy when it comes to dating.
Ever experienced one of the above thoughts yourself? I know you have.
In some way, at some point, I know you have limited yourself. And I’m no exception myself. Actually most of us do it all the time.
Just before you approach a girl, there’s a good chance you see a lot of frightening images.
Her slapping you down, and then just standing there laughing at you. You actually feel humiliated before you even talk to her.
And then what happens? You decide it’s better to not approach her. You walk away.
You beat yourself up over it later. You find 100’s of things you could have said, but didn’t.
This is what used to happen for me.
Now I just go over and say hi
I have realized that I have nothing to lose. I know for sure that she’s not going to slap me or anything like that.
If she’s not interested (which in that case would be her loss…) I simply walk away myself. Fair enough, I gave it a shot.
You can also think of it this way:
What’s the chance of you hooking up with her if you don’t approach her? Near zero.
What’s the chance if you do? For beginners, I’d say about 15-20%. Maybe more or less, it comes down to a lot of things.
But the point is, you actually have a pretty decent chance of getting laid in the future if you just approach a few girls.
And getting laid is better than not getting laid, right?
It’s almost just math. Some girls will not be into you. That’s life.
But some will, and it’s here the real “opportunity” arises. If you just approach a few girls each day, you have a very good chance of meeting someone great once in a while.
And if you don’t fuck it up, you might end up getting a quality girlfriend. Someone to come home to, to hold tight, to kiss, to please.
Or to do whatever you want, that’s out of my scope. But having one (or more) quality girls in your life is fantastic.
It’s a lot of hard work, especially at first, but I can assure you that it’s worth it.
The feeling that you have (almost) total control over your dating life is really incredible. And it’s just a positive spiral.
Getting rid of self limiting beliefs
- Identify the self limiting belief. One of the most common is that you’re in some way not attractive enough to be with really good looking women.
- Find out why you have it. This is important. Usually it’s because of something that happened years ago. It may have been your father yelling at you saying that you’re “too dumb”, or some girl saying you need to lose a few kilos. Not important. You just have to realize that “looking back makes you fall over what’s in front of you“.
- Eliminate the problem. If you think you’re too fat; you have two options. Either you lose weight, or you decide with yourself that it’s not important when it comes to dating. It’s easier to fix the root of the problem than fixing the “branches”. If you think you’re not attractive enough, do what you can to look good, and then decide that you’re the best looking man in the world.
- Stick to your new belief. Whenever you try to say to yourself that you’re too fat, or you’re not “hot” enough, change it. Say that you’re almost too hot. Say that you’re dangerously ripped. Anything else than your old belief.
So I just wanted this to be a short motivational post, and I hope it can help you decide that you are good enough, and that it’s only a matter of approaching her to get to know her. It’s really quite simple.
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