Comments on: Why Bars may Not be the Best Place to Meet Women

By: Eric

Eric — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 04:15:14 +0000

This is mostly true. Women go to the bar to be with their girlfriends and don’t really care about guys. If you are not already in their group of friends that night, you have absolutely no chance at meeting the woman that you are interested in. Its a social game that I dont understand, but just know that they aren’t there to meet somebody like you.

By: Osip

Osip — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:30:45 +0000

your posts is very true. I’m surprised most guys don’t know all of that. I always thought it was basic knowledge to me, I figured it out all on my own. It wasn’t hard either. I kinda thought it was common sense.

However, I’d like to mention girls go to bars for the free drinks they know guys will buy them!

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 16:39:41 +0000

Jason, that is a really good point. Everyone are equals, pretty or not, so treat them that way, also! But of course, if you are attracted to somebody, let it show… Because you can not be attracted to everybody. Or well, in principle you can ;-)

I like your approach, it is so much easier (and fun!) not just talking to the “cute” girls. Sometimes the not so cute girls seem to be much more interesting when actually talking to them, so give them all a chance. Also the guys, you know, a stranger is just a friend you haven’t met yet!

Thanks for commenting, Jason.

Sincerely,
Alex

By: Jason

Jason — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:03:01 +0000

Alex good post. I would also say dont discriminate when you go out. What I mean is talk to everyone, and if you are lucky enough to have a girl come up and talk to you- be nice. Everyone is watching. If the pretty girls see you being a gentleman, and talking to everyone equally you will be viewed favorably. And if you get into a group with both guys & girls, introduce yourself to the guys. Even if they dont like you at least you tried.

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 10:23:29 +0000

For what? Have a purpose in mind.

To meet cute girls, I’d say go the places you love and would hang out on alone. Concerts, maybe?

Only your imagination sets the limit. Good luck Bill.

By: Bill

Bill — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 05:24:02 +0000

Since bars are NOT the best place, then where would be the best places to go?

By: Alex

Alex — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 18:48:43 +0000

Jack,

if you’re a bartender, why don’t you just meet the girls while working? Bartenders usually have pretty high “value” in the club / bar environment, and if you’re also good looking and in your best age, you shouldn’t have too much of a problem meeting cute girls.

Just ask them about their night so far etc. (usual small talk), and say that you have to get back to work, but would love to talk again under more normal circumstances. Take her number. Bam.

Please do write me back if you have any questions :-)

Good luck!

By: Jack Lupino

Jack Lupino — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 01:12:03 +0000

I’m a bartender and i know how it goes most of the times, and i agree MOST of the times its not the best place to meet women.

But, its great for a date! No akward silences and such :]

About the meeting, well seeing as i’m single, what would you have me do?
I guess i can’t do anything besides going out with my drinking buddies until that someone comes along.
But what if i don’t want to wait? How can i make something happen from nowhere? I’m not in any clubs or activities or anything, im 20, good looking guy, no problems with interaction though i get the feeling there’s nothing good to be found in a bar, so where do i go?

Regards,

A concerned bartender =)

By: Brandon

Brandon — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 02:19:10 +0000

To Jillista: I personally use the ‘give my number’ method just so I don’t appear to pushy…if the girl doesn’t care to talk to me again, than by all means don’t call. I’d rather just say: ‘hey, I enjoyed talking to you tonight, perhaps we can continue our conversation some other time?’ (giving her my number at this time), than to get her phone number only to find it is fake or that you call her and get that ‘omg i can’t believe i gave THIS guy my number’ vibe. I personally agree on Alex’s no expectation rule, and this method kinda goes hand in hand with that mindset i think.

By: Jillista

Jillista — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 16:56:00 +0000

Only one thing that I have to disagree on. I don’t call guys – they call me. I know that there are plenty of women that feel more comfortable getting numbers rather than giving theirs out, but there are still those of us that want things done the old-fashioned way.