Why Bars may Not be the Best Place to Meet Women

It’s Friday night, and you’re going out with your friends.

Where are you most likely going to go? If you answered a bar (or pub), you answered correct.

You can get beer, there’s music, and there are girls. Perfect evening right?

Then why is it, that 9/10 times you go out, you don’t leave the bar with nothing but an empty feeling in your stomach? Sure, drinking with your buddies is great, but let’s admit it.

The #1 reason guys go out is to meet girls. And nothing wrong with that!

But why is it so hard to meet girls at bars?

The first and foremost reason is the competetion. For every girl at most bars, there are at least 3 guys. That’s a 3 to 1 ratio. Bad odds right from the beginning.

And what does this mean? It means that all the girls have already been “hit on” long before you get your chance.

Sure, I know you’re a great guy. Intelligent, funny and charming. But most guys are creeps, and women know this.

And that’s the second reason it’s so hard to meet girls at bars.

They already have their defenses up long before you get to speak a word. It’s like they shoot you down from a mile away.

And I totally get it. Seriously, wouldn’t you get tired of having guys hitting on you all night?

Why women go out

A lot of women don’t go out to meet guys. They go out to have fun with their girlfriends, dancing, getting a drink or two, and showing off in their new fancy shoes.

This is something that you have to understand:

Girls dress up to impress girls, not to impress guys!

Of course, I can’t speak in absolute truths like this. But the biggest reason that a woman spends so much time in front of the mirror before going out, is to feel great about herself. Some women spend 3+ hours before leaving.

This may sound “sick” to most men, but I know from experience that this is the truth. And don’t we appreciate it? Of course we do. We all love girls who looks stunning.

This brings me back to the topic again. Women go out to have fun. Their mindset is very different from the majority of men.

Difference in goals

They don’t want to call their girlfriends the following day, saying they went home with some drunk guy who bought her drinks.

A lot of guys want this, however. (Reverse roles of course) And women know about this. Drunk, horny men are something women encounters first in their teenage years, and it’s something they have to cope with for most of their life.

Seeking the “prince on the white horse” is something most women do all their life too.

The story they want to tell the next day is much more like this:

“Hey, I met this cute guy last night. He wasn’t at all like all the other drunk creeps in there. He introduced himself politely but in a kind of charming way, and we ended up having a really fun conversation about why most guys have such a hard time picking up women. Suddenly he took my hand and kissed me… And boy, what a kiss! He said he had to leave, but I got his number before he left. I think I’ll call him later… How was your night?”

See the difference?

My point is this:

You have to have excellent game to meet women at bars (and take it further). You have to really stand out from the crowd, and have the skills to get under her “shield”.

This is why most guys fail.

The new mindset

It’s great going to a bar with your friends. But don’t have any expectations when it comes to women.

Just grab some beers and make some new friends. That’s all.

Reserve “scoring” for all the other days in the week. And when you get really good at picking up women in the daytime, you start to “automatically” get the skills you need to pick up women in the night scene too.

So what have we learned?

• Competetion at bars is fierce.
• Women don’t necessarily go out to meet men, but instead just to have fun dancing with their girlfriends.
• And so should you! Have fun going out, have no expectations.
• Pick-up women in daytime untill you get the skills.

If you remember just one of these things the next time you go out, (and apply it correctly), you’re already miles ahead of most other guys.

Good luck,
Alex

I write about women and dating all the time. Subscribe to our RSS Feed to get new content delivered straight to your inbox.

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