Words from Alex: This is the first chapter of my new ebook called “The Ex-Girlfriend Solution“. (Also see the post “Sample Chapter: An Explanation of the Four Phases You Will Be Going Through During Your Break-up”)
| Introduction…………………………………………………………………………………………….. |
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| How the book is built up……………………………………………………………………………. |
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| My assumptions about you………………………………………………………………………… |
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| The break-up | |
| Why so many guys need help getting over their ex-girlfriends……………………….. |
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| A logical progression of emotions An explanation of the four phases you will be going through…………………………. |
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| Process A graph showcasing how your process might end up looking…………………………. |
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| Shock (The break-up just happened) |
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| Moving on instead of wanting her back Why you should do it………………………………………………………………………………… |
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| The cramping hand technique An amazing exercise to clear your mind………………………………………………………. |
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| You are not your thoughts You are soul, you are heart, you are balls……………………………………………………. |
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| Reaction (You’re beginning to react) |
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| The daytime | |
| How to avoid being distracted by her A meditation exercise to help quiet your thoughts………………………………………… |
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| A simple way to concentrate on the present Connecting you to the present with your breaths…………………………………………. |
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| Feel your emotions fully A silly analogy about why you should let the pain in……………………………………… |
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| Why you should practice living with an open heart even if it hurts Stand up for yourself and don’t deny anything.……………………………………………. |
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| The nighttime | |
| What to do when lying in bed and thinking about her A simple drill to use if you have a hard time falling asleep……………………………… |
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| How to get a good night’s sleep 7 simple tips to help make yourself ready for a good night’s rest……………………… |
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| Contact | |
| The no contact rule explained and why women play mind games Women are confusing so you better stay in charge………………………………………. |
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| When to break the no contact rule Contact to a minimum………………………………………………………………………………. |
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| The no contact rule brought into action Stop the Facebook stalking………………………………………………………………………… |
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| Keeping contact between you and her family or friends Should you do it……………………………………………………………………………………….. |
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| What to do if you have common friends Should you let her win them?…………………………………………………………………….. |
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| How to stop waiting and hoping for your ex-girlfriend to text or call you 7 tips to get out of the grey land………………………………………………………………… |
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| Reparation (You’re ready to move on) |
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| Meet new people | |
| When will you be ready to meet someone new? Finding yourself again………………………………………………………………………………. |
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| Getting back in the game How to keep from acting awkward…………………………………………………………….. |
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| There are women everywhere Kindergarten mathematics to help you on your way…………………………………….. |
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| When to use online dating Why not to rely on it for all your dating needs……………………………………………… |
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| Telling a new girl about your ex Should you do it?……………………………………………………………………………………… |
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| Your perfect girl How to get to know the woman of your dreams…………………………………………… |
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| What to do and what to avoid when that perfect woman comes by Why she doesn’t want you and what to do about it……………………………………… |
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| Lifestyle | |
| See your break-up as a new beginning Use your feelings to drive you to your goals…………………………………………………. |
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| Get into shape and become a healthy mo-fo The three things you have to do well…………………………………………………………… |
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| How to act and talk about the break-up with your friends Should you forgive her or talk shit about her?……………………………………………… |
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| Strengthen your weakest link first How to get a balanced personality……………………………………………………………… |
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| Getting over approach anxiety Don’t be afraid of fear………………………………………………………………………………. |
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| How to think and how to act | |
| Put her down the pedestal Take a brutally honest retrospective…………………………………………………………… |
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| How to act if she thinks that you’re still friends Is it even possible?……………………………………………………………………………………. |
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| What to do if you work together You have two choices……………………………………………………………………………….. |
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| Don’t try to do acts of revenge It’s for your own good………………………………………………………………………………. |
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| Stay away from alcohol Shouldn’t you be able to have fun without drinking?…………………………………….. |
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| Keep busy A two-in-one solution……………………………………………………………………………….. |
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| What if there are kids involved? 8 things to keep in mind……………………………………………………………………………. |
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| Growth and reflection (Long after the break-up) |
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| Contact with your ex | |
| What to do if she emails you after 10 years A real story from a woman………………………………………………………………………… |
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| How to respond and act if your ex suddenly contacts you again 6 easy tips on how to handle it…………………………………………………………………… |
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| How to act if you see her out Treat it like seeing an old friend to whom you don’t have much to say……………. |
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| How to react if you find out that she has a new boyfriend Preparing for the inevitable……………………………………………………………………….. |
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| Thoughts about your ex | |
| What to do if you find yourself dreaming about her What it means and what to do…………………………………………………………………… |
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| New relationship | |
| The one word that will make any woman open up instantly The best way to meet and attract women everywhere…………………………………….. |
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| Why bad boys get all the hot women and nice guys never come close How to ride the balance between bad boy and nice guy and reap the benefits… |
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| How to keep from doing the same mistakes A mistake is only a mistake if you make it twice…………………………………………… |
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| A simple way to learn what went wrong Talking to your ex-girlfriend about it…………………………………………………………… |
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| How to keep the spark in a long-term relationship 7 tips on how to stay in love………………………………………………………………………. |
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| The future | |
| The future is bright……………………………………………………………………………………
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Introduction
This book is written to be the best and most comprehensive resource ever created for you to get over your ex-girlfriend. It is written so you can continue with your life, happier than ever, ready to find love once again.
Don’t expect big and deep psychological explanations of the underlying reasons for love or pain. I am not a medical professional and don’t pretend to be. Those kinds of books have already been written. If you ask me, that’s not what you need the most when you sit with your broken heart and ask yourself why things went wrong.
Your own mind and body are what lives in pain at the moment, but strangely enough, it is also your own mind and body that will heal you again. You may not know it yet, but your soul possesses great knowledge about what you need to get through this process.
And let me make it clear right from the start that getting over your ex is a process. It is a different process for everybody, but it always follows the same overall pattern: It has a beginning, and it has an end.
This book is designed to let you know that you know what to do to move on, and making you move on, both consciously and unconsciously. You may not know it yet, but the wisdom to do what is right for you already lie inside you. This book will help you uncover that wisdom and take you nearer the source of that wisdom at the same time.
You will not only get over your ex and be able to move on with your life. When finished with this book, you will also be on a powerful path to self-discovery and self-knowledge. Combine that with new courage to live, and you have a potent combination. My clear goal with this book is not only to help you to get over your ex, but also to make you the best man you could possibly be.
Disclaimer: For anonymity purposes I have changed some names of persons and places throughout the ebook, but all email content is authentic and I have received permission to publish it from the persons involved. It should also be noted that I am not a professional and that this book is only an expression of my opinions
How the book is built up
The book starts out by discussing why so many guys need help getting over their ex-girlfriend and next there’s a logical progression of emotions presented.
It is based on this progression that the rest of the book is laid out with advice related to the feelings and questions you’ll have at the given time.
In this regard, it should be said that I have written this book so that it makes sense reading it from the beginning to the end, but also to use it as reference.
Open any page, and you should be able to comprehend the material without any background knowledge. When a key-concept is talked about, a page reference is always put in so you will be able to locate it and become better orientated.
Reading the book from page one will be the most beneficial to most, but if you feel like you have a specific problem being addressed somewhere later on, feel free to start your journey there.
My assumptions about you
It should be said that everything I write is written through a heterosexual man’s perspective. If you’re gay, bisexual, female or something fourth, the concepts in this book will still apply to you.
Some things may be a little different, but I am sure that you will find a lot valuable information in here no matter what your sexual preferences are. Just use the appropriate wording and read it from that perspective.
Experience isn’t needed, and everything I write should be as relevant for someone who has had several partners as for someone who has just experienced his first break-up.
For this exact reason, some things may seem too simple for some. If that’s the case, simply brush over it and go the next chapter to find something more relevant.
But even though experience isn’t needed, I do assume that you’re willing to put in the work it takes.
With that said, let’s take a look at why so many guys need help getting over their ex-girlfriends.