Comments on: Meet Girls at the Video store at 11 pm on a Saturday – On How To be a Social Guy

By: steve b

steve b — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 19:11:04 +0000

I asked her what she was doing at a video store on a saturday night. I found out she was also tired coming back from New York just a few hours earlier. We agreed to chat more about movies and travelling another day over a cup of tea. Exchanged numbers.

ok so how did you just get her number i dont get the steps in between like how did you agree to get coffe with out her thinking your weird got any advice

By: Tuplad

Tuplad — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 15:39:31 +0000

Good post!

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 23:06:54 +0000

ScLoughlin, that’s so great to hear. Love this kind of feedback!

(you know, the female kind of feedback where I get to hear how nice I am…) Just kidding. A little :)

Haha, let’s hope I will cut down the stories a little! Can’t be wrong to give it a shot.

All the best,
Alex

By: DatingIsWeird

DatingIsWeird — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 17:35:06 +0000

Alex, as a woman I appreciate how you approached her in a straight forward way with a normal conversation starter, not a pick-up line. Too often really attractive guys start conversations with a pick up line, which is like getting hit in the head with a man’s sexual intentions. Even if I thought you were cute, starting a conversation out on a sexual note is a big turnoff. On the other hand, treating me like a human with more to offer than a female body is a big points earner.

Just found your site and can’t thank you enough for putting really great dating advice out there. Maybe all your work will help cut down on the stories at my site, for both men and women.

Thanks again!

-SGLoughlin

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 15:03:15 +0000

Raymond, it’s all about being a good observer. Look at the things around you!

It’s really important.

If you want something “canned”, you can ask for her (or his) name. Ask what they’re doing at the place you’re at, where they’re heading or something like that.

Just a normal, regular conversation.

And as said in the post, remember to LISTEN!

Hope it helps. And thanks a lot!

By: Raymond Chua

Raymond Chua — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:27:21 +0000

Hi Alex,

Thanks for the informative and interesting post.

I think that’s my problem which is I do not know how to start a conversation.

It usually begins and at the same time end with “hi”.

I can hardly find the content for the conversation.

Do you have any fix for this. I must learn to break the ice.

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 13:54:15 +0000

lol William! Legend? Nah.

But thanks for the compliments!

By: William Zanelli

William Zanelli — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 13:44:26 +0000

You’re a legend!! I love this post!! More often please.

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 13:40:00 +0000

Will,

I’m so proud ;) Great job! Seriously. That takes a lot of balls.

Pete, it sure is. And thanks! Feels fantastic to be back.
Keep working on it.

By: Pete Soederbergh

Pete Soederbergh — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 12:45:22 +0000

Thats really great Will, glad to hear.

I have also tried to start a few “random” conversations with a little success in the past, but this is really something I want handled now.. Its just a great trait to have.

Great blog alex, glad you’re back.