How to Use Your Voice to Project More Confidence
OK, so we all know that guys with booming, dark, sexy masculine voices are highly attractive to women.
But what about you? Do you have an attractive voice?
You may have. And if so – that’s great. If not, I suggest that you read on.
You don’t have to be born with a sexy voice to get one. It can be developed – trained. And I’ll show you how.
Apart from just your voice, we’ll also work on different aspects of your tonality. Your voice itself is only one of many weapons you use while you speak.
Let’s get some theory down before we begin
Speak with confidence
The easiest way to sound confident is to actually be confident.
When you know what you are talking about, and you know that you are right in the matter, you will automatically sound and be more confident. This is attractive.
Only say something when you have something to say
Over time this will raise your authority, since you always know what to say and when.
This is a big one. Speaking slowly projects confidence and builds intrigue.
Why? Take this example.
Average Adam walks in and gets the attention of a group. He starts speaking. But because he is afraid that they won’t listen to him for long, he starts speaking faster to keep their attention. This is a bad approach.
Now, on the other hand we have Confident Carl. He knows that the group wants to listen to him because he says a lot of interesting stuff, and generally is an interesting person. He speaks slow, so everyone can hear every word perfectly.
Now who do you think is most attractive to women, Average Adam or Confident Carl? Well, if you haven’t figured that out… It’s Carl. Big surprise ;-)
The moral? Speak slow. And…
Pronounce every word
This is also really important.
And not only should you pronounce every word, you should also pronounce every word accurately.
Mumbling is unattractive for the simple reason that it’s hard to understand what you say.
And then it doesn’t matter if you have a deep voice.
If people can’t hear you, or don’t understand you, you are going to have quite a hard time socializing.
And that’s not what we want!
Pause… And talk.
Add pauses when you talk. Simple, really. Just pause once in a while and look people in their eyes, it will add suspense and make it more interesting to listen to you. Don’t be a radio jockey!
Use hand gestures
Use your hands while you talk. At first you might be a bit self-concious about it, but soon it will become a habit. Start now!
This is a as much a body language thing as it is a sound thing.
When you stand straight and good – you know, like a soldier, you speak better and project more confidence.
Having a good posture is just generally healthy, too.
Practice by raising your chest. When you raise your chest, you also drop your shoulders down a little. And you straighten your neck.
Just don’t slouch! Also…
This is actually harder than it sounds, but getting used to speaking louder is really rewarding, especially if you enjoy the bar and club scene.
I don’t have any specific exercises or anything, just try it out in your every day life.
Don’t become obnoxious in any way, you should just speak so loud that the listener has no problem hearing what you have to say.
Having people asking you to repeat yourself because you spoke too quiet destroys the natural rhythm of a conversation, and is, on top of that really annoying.
So just speak up a little.
Be a better breather
I have a whole post on good breathing here: Start Breathing When It Matters The Most and Get More.
It’s all about breathing deep. Get the air all the way into your belly.
Just place your hand on your stomach, and breathe in. Get it to expand. Breathe out and repeat.
Getting used to breathe “belly breathing” will absolutely give you better voice control.
(There are lots of other benefits, too.)
Get a deeper, more masculine voice
Mmmmmhh… Barry White. Chicks dig him ’cause of his voice, so why shouldn’t they dig you too?
Simple exercises to get a deeper voice
- Say “ooooohhmmm” as deep as you possibly can. Try to hold it and really feel the resonating feeling in your stomach. This is the feeling you want when you speak.
- Saying “aaaaaahhh” also works to some extend. Experiment!
- Blow out candles. Try to use short breaths while at it.
- Yawn. Perfect for relaxing the muscles so you won’t sound so uptight.
- Speak from your belly.
- Practice that breathing!
Relaxing is key. And this is where all the ends get tied up – fully relaxing is easy if you’re confident in the environment.
If you’re not, you’re most likely going to be a little uptight. Try not to.
Start breathing instead!
So guys I hope you could use these tips.
Generally, just try to know what you’re talking about. Stand straight while at it and don’t forget to breathe. Talk a little louder and a little deeper than you’re used to. And use hand movements to add to your points.
Good luck. And I’ll see you in the comments!
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