Written on Monday 23 Jun by Alex Kay
How To Meet and Talk to Girls 365 Days a Year
OK, so you want to get good with the ladies? Maybe even great? It takes practice, you know that.
You also know it won’t come overnight. It will take time.
So why are you only talking to girls on Friday and Saturday nights?!
By only talking to women on two days of the week, you’re significantly cutting down your chances of meeting someone amazing - and gaining a lot less practice!
Most of us see beautiful women on a daily basis. Might be a girl on the bus, in the supermarket, on the street, in a fashion store, it doesn’t matter.
So why are you only talking to girls on Friday and Saturday nights?!
This post might not be directed at you. Maybe you talk to women every day. Maybe you haven’t ever “approached” someone. But please, read on. You’ll learn something anyway.
Meeting women everywhere
When I first started out trying to meet women, I would only do it on the weekends. I thought that this was just the way it was supposed to work. I didn’t understand that there are no “rules” when it comes to dating. You make the rules.
I did think about approaching on the street. But not for many seconds at a time. I thought to myself that “she might be doing something important”, “she’s in a hurry” or some other wuss explanation I made up.
It’s not too long ago I realized that she would be lucky to meet me!
Of course I can take a minute out of her day. I might be the best thing ever happening to her.
And if she doesn’t agree? What if she has to do something really important and is in a hurry?
We will both just walk away, simple as that. At least I tried.
Did you try? What did you do the last time you saw a gorgeous lady? My bet is that you didn’t do anything. You just walked on.
You let her walk right out of your life.
Let go of your excuses
Realize that by just letting go of your excuses, you could be dating 10 times as much.
This really is “the secret” when it comes to dating. Having no excuses and making your own rules.
So what are you going to do the next time you see someone you would like to meet? Go up and say hi. Observe something. Comment on something. Get to know her. Listen.
Don’t just walk away. Don’t make excuses.
I promise you, it will be worth your time. And you’ll be worth hers.
Try it, and let me know what happens.
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Amen,
I’ve been trying that more and more since I’ve been commuting to work every day now. Generally I’ll talk to a pretty girl at least once a day. Just need to brush up on my conversation skills. I can get a rapport going, but don’t know how to move onto asking them out. Any tips?
Paul G
I would ask them for a phone number, asking her for a date in the midst of a lot of people could get awkward for her. But as Alex says, you make up your own rules! The only think you shouldn’t be making up when it comes to dating is excuses.
Paul,
that’s fantastic! Don’t think too much about “asking them out”. It’s too dramatic and not necessary.
Just let them know that you would like to continue the conversation another day.
Take a number, or go to a café right away. I think you get the drill.
It’s all about taking small steps, “moving” smoothly all the time. Everything should be very natural, and be able to be explained with “it just happened”.
Good luck!
And thanks for the acknowledgement Lau ;)
Another great read Alex!
From my time being single i first found it very hard to talk to girls. Now i just go and chat, act normal and be myself.
Jay,
that’s fantastic! Great to hear :)