She broke up with me about a week and a half ago and it really didn’t sink in until yesterday when she admitted that she had sex with another guy already. 5 years and it only took her one week.

It hurt so bad when she told me and being weak I told her I would still be friends with her (with benefits) but I am totally reconsidering that.

I put everything into our relationship and she basically just ripped my heart apart. She keeps saying how she doesn’t want me out of her life because of everything we have been through and wants to be friends.

I really don’t even know what to do, I loved the girl so much and we barely ever got into fights. I really think I should just stop talking to her altogether after what she has done, but you all know how I feel and how hard it is..

So I have been doing awesome as of late. Really got back to being my old self…stopped thinking about her…started dating again…have had breaks in NC…but pretty much have talked with her in over a month-month and a half. Zero contact. Have cut off all ties. Took the advice of everyone on here…and started to focus on me again.

Briefly recap…she started to date someone back in May…and broke my heart when she did. I tried to fight to get her back…but she wanted to see where it was doing to go with this other dude…while stringing me a long. I finally said fuck that! Took me a little while to come to terms with that…but I did it…and never looked back. I have been in such a better place since.

Fast forward to today. There is a party tomorrow that I will be attending at a friend’s house. It’s honestly the party of the summer…with over 150 people there….and I have been looking forward to it all year long.(Its def a summer highlight) She gets an invite and will be going I guess. I didn’t really care that she is going…was def not going to let it ruin my time…I was still gonna have fun..and concentrate on having fun with my own friends…as opposed to being a loser and staring at her and her new boyfriend.

Get a text from my sister this morning…and says that she got a message on FB from my ex…telling my sister that she as now single…and no longer dating anyone. (Me and my sister are pretty close, and my ex knows we talk daily.) That was the entire message. My sister told me about it….and honestly guys….I fuckin laughed. I am really not sure why she sent my sister that message, other than the fact that she wanted me to know. If I would have heard this 2 months ago…I would have been ecstatic. I really could give a fuck less right now. I am still looking forward to the party, and wont give her a second look when I see her. A brief….”Hey, how are you?” is about all she will get.

I said it before…and will say it again. I never wanted to be 2nd string to someone else. So now that this guy is out of the picture…you want me to know your single? Things didn’t work out with your dude…and now you want to see if I am still there? HAHA! Fuck you! I have been dating better looking girls than you…and that have more going for them in their personal lives! I more positive…happier…have been doing different things…and have no desire to go back to the place I was in before.

NC has worked sooo well for me. It takes time…and you have to want it guys. The person your ex is with right now(if she is with someone) most likely wont work out. Don’t be a smuck and take her back when she is done with the other dude though. YOU AND ME are better than that.

Love this board. I will update everyone with how the party went! Stay strong fellas!

jaret grow up

well I am in highschool and I know I’m just a kid who should just move on since I have my entire life in front of me. But hear me out. I met this girl who is beautiful, no joke. she was stunning. She was on the cheerleading team and I was a basketball manager. Didn’t speak to her much during the basketball season but I saw her on facebook and decided to add her and guess what she starts talking with me. Note that I have never dated anyone before.

Well we chatted for a few days and decided to meet after school and go to a cafe where we talked more. She recently went on a trip and brought me some gifts which was surprising knowing that we never really talked face to face. But after a few meetings she said that she liked me. I liked her too so I asked her out and we started dating. Me being new at relationships and all started out rough and eventually she told me that she fallen in love with me and I told her the same.

I live in Asia while she lives in the school dorm. Spring break comes and she went back to America to her family for 2 weeks. We chatted and told how much we missed each other and everything was good. About 2 more months passed and our relationship got stronger and everything from the first kiss to the first “night” together came. I felt that I really loved this girl and I never knew I could care for someone this much. But summer vacation arrived. We spent the last weekend together before she left and she cried how much she is going to miss me. Literally, in my arms, crying for a good 10 minutes holding me saying its going to be too hard. She wrote a few msn messages to me how she cried after and can’t wait to see me. We’ve been planning a trip for months so that I could visit her and her family in America at the end of the vacation, something I had to fight for because my parents weren’t really to fond of the idea.

Well the first 2,3 weeks of summer was alright. She called regularly and told that she misses me and loves me and can’t wait until i visit. But after that 2,3 week mark she got over the jetlag and our timezones differed. She started to see her friends more and going out to more parties and all and her calls were much fewer and shorter. Everything went pretty down hill. But me, being so stupid and lovestrucked I thought when we see each other again everything would be okay again.

As I packed the night before the trip she calls. She basically called to say she doesn’t want me to come and she wants to be with her friends more and isn’t comfortable someone being their for an entire week. Literally, the night before the trip she tells me this. She told me she has no feelings for me anymore basically yelling everything that she doesn’t even like me. I was devastated but was too fucking dumb and too stupid and insist on coming. She was pissed and said whatever and that she didn’t care. I took the trip around the globe and I met her. She gave me a hug but there was some definite distance. Despite sleeping in the same bed there was no cuddling let alone sex. She says we can hang as friends and after 2 nights I ask her. “Is there nothing between us anymore?” where she replies “I guess”.

Sigh there she is. My first girlfriend, kiss, sex, love just standing there like its no big deal. She had numerous boyfriends in the past and most of them were her friends now (one being her best friend). She told me all relationships mostly end like this and we can still be friends and all but she just doesn’t care and that we never really truly loved each other. I don’t understand how someone can say that she really loves me at one point and then in a few weeks she doesn’t care about me. Literally, the last time I saw her she was crying in my arms saying that she is going to miss me too much but now she’s just a girl who doesn’t give a damn.

I was stuck with my ex for a week with no one to talk to. I knew I wasn’t wanted there and I knew she’d rather see her friends than me not to say we did much together anyways. I read her texts (which I know is wrong) and yup, all about her wishing that she could be partying with her friends. I talked to her mom and her mom said she is like this and she is cold and selfish inside. I was surprised that her own mom was taking my side. Her mom said that the freedom she had in America made her different compared to the strict rules the dorm has and told me that I should ignore her and soon she would feel alone like I do when she gets back to school. My ex found out that I went through her phone and told her mom which her mom said it was her fault and that she shouldn’t be texting 24/7 in front of my face and that she gave me a reason for me to look at it (was before the breakup). They argued in front of me and I decided to apologize (which I regret). After that the few days were cold and I stayed in my room most of the time.

Well I just came back from the trip and haven’t called or talked to her since which she doesn’t really care about.
Her mom says she’ll be different when she comes back to school but then I’ll feel used. I think I’m depressed not the fact that we broke up but the fact that she doesn’t give a shit about any of it. Not even a hint of sadness. I feel like I’ve been played. At one point her friends in school told me how much happier she is with me and at another she rather be out partying than be with me. School is coming up and I don’t know what to do guys… I know its kinda pathetic but she caught me crying which she didn’t say much about and I cried while deleting everything off my phone related to her. I need help.

We learn the hard way, and are armed with this new knowledge, to help us make better decisions with future women.

Stick to you instincts, they are usually right.
If you think something is wrong, it usually is.

I couldn’t even kiss this new girl i’m seeing last night.
I had her right there, i just couldn’t do it. I wanted to…
I’m so whipped.
I guess it would be easier after a few beers, but i don’t drink.

Yea Yea I know im a pussy…