Well, another update, then! Hope no one is getting bored here yet... Because I feel sharing this might help some of you guys who are struggling with this as well.
Anyway, I'm back to the talk-to-girls-thing. Am getting rather bored with just asking them for trivial things. However, asking trivial questions are a good way to get yourself in a social mood. Of course, it helps when people react nicely to you, but negative reactions are fine as well. Since I am in my head way too much, it's nice to have an opportunity to get in the moment instead.
OK, I'm going to repeat that last sentence in part: getting out of my head and into the moment seems what I'm getting better at right now. And I like that a lot. Being in the moment, and being a social person.
Recently, I talked about these things with a friend of mine. This friend never has been a chick magnet, so to say. Oh yes, quite often he had 'dates' with chicks: girls that saw him as a friend only, and poured out their hearts for him. And though he appreciated the confidence given to him, you can all imagine what he didn't appreciate at all... Anyway, he has a girlfriend now. They met each other, liked each other, and got into a relationship. Kinda clumsy, and though she was fine with that, I personally would never again accept this kind of thing from myself.
My friend recently admitted to me that he wasn't very comfortable being somewhere all by himself and then starting to socialize with people.
That, folks, is what I'm focusing on lately (which of course you've heard multiple times from me)! This fear of meeting and connecting with people has to dissipate. It shouldn't have a place in our lives, and I currently am experiencing that being a social person is a cool & nice thing to be.
Up 'till now, doing this kind of thing has always put me in a better mood. I don't know exactly how this works, maybe I'll find out one day. Yes, good reactions help a lot, and negative ones work against me. But overall, knowing that you have approached a number of girls just feels OK. And with such an improved mood, interacting with guys goes much better as well.