Just returned from holidays, guys. I've been to Malta. Great place to visit. Don't go there for the beaches, though, there aren't many. If you're interested in an island with a rich history, architecture, nature and sea life, then by all means put Malta on your to-visit list.
Anyway, my holidays never consist of relaxing only. They have this tendency to turn into a very journey through the Self. As were these holidays on Malta. I booked my holidays with a group of people I didn't know. Fifteen persons; about half of them girls. Well, what I did right was that I started talking to the girls right at the airport. Almost no guy does this (why on earth not?? I do not understand this anymore). What didn't go so good was that I didn't manage to create a connection with all of them; two 18 year old girls didn't really respond to me and I failed to tune in to them. Which was a pity, since one of them was flat out the cutest of all.
I was about to never mind that, but after a few days the following happened. Two guys (among which my roommate) appeared really humorous, and even more so together. Eventually, they were kind of the most attention demanding element of the group. This started to attract the 18-year-old girl I just told of; eventually my roommate managed to 'get her'. Just by being funny, nothing more. Which goes to show how attractive humor can be.
Anyway, I started to have this nagging feeling: why am I not in the spotlights? I mean, I don't think I should be on top of the world. But should I be content with just some place in the margin? Obviously not. However, joking around at the level these two guys were doing proved to be quite demanding. It also got me kind of confused.
I could have done some things I didn't do. For example, I could have approached Maltese girls (they came across as not being very open to tourists on a romantic level, so this would have been a good practice scenario). However, that probably wouldn't have worked out very well for the cohesion of the group, and I wanted to have a nice vacation with a group of people, not just as an individual. Besides, for reasons I'll explain to you later
I wasn't very interested in pursuing a romantic relationship.
So, I have a question for you guys. If in a situation in which other guys demand a lot of attention, what should you do? You obviously don't need to be as funny as them. On the other hand, wouldn't that be a good ambition? And if you feel some people are demanding a little too much attention, how can you put this to a stop, so you (and maybe even other people) get the room you deserve?
In other words, how to be an alpha type of male when others are being this as well?