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JCZ:
Hi guys,
I'm Johannes and have been on the newsletter for some time now. Am quite unexperienced with women. Of course, this is not out of free will. Had some bad experiences in the past (heart broken several times, you know the drill...), which made me more and more a wimp with women. This mentality of "let's try to be as nice as possible and hope she'll fall for me", ouch, what a horrible misconception it is, and yet what a hard-to-avoid trap too...
Some time ago (2 yrs or so) I got to know the 'dating community'. I didn't become involved in it, but tried out some stuff, mainly to fight my shyness with women. And then I found out that 'shyness towards women' really isn't the problem, it's more a shyness towards everybody, a feeling of social awkwardness. So, I decided to take some steps. Or, did I? It's becoming more and more an automatic process: I just can't keep going on the old way, the 'new way' is so much better. Just going out and 'doing' it feels good; sitting lazily at home feels more stupid by the day.
Everytime, every single time I am somewhere, doesn't matter where, I see all these men going out of their way to be socially awkward, weird, creepy... Just to impress their peers, or women. While all you need is a social attitude. And that's what I'm looking to develop more.
Becoming a 'player' isn't my goal per se, but becoming the social, loveable guy is. And of course, such a man also has skills with women. I find skills with women to be more rewarding than just plain social skills. But from the one comes the other.
So that's me!
Cheers,
Johannes
Alex:
It seems like you have been on an interesting journey, Johannes.
Welcome to the forums, glad to have you here! ;)
Cpt. Jackal:
Very, very nice transition indeed.
Welcome to the club, Johannes.
JCZ:
Thanks! I'm glad a forum like this actually exists. I know there are PUA forums out there, but I'm not sure if I'm into the hardcore PUA stuff... Just improving my social skills is the #1 goal right now.
Scott D:
What is PUA? I don't think I've heard of it before.
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