This is a continual problem, and I've got a feeling its going to be a long post, I don't know if any of you guys have this too but I'm just gonna 'fess up now.
I find myself attracted to girls far more if they have a boyfriend, especially if he's with her at the time I first see her.
I don't know what it is, maybe its because I crave a challenge, or maybe its just a deathwish, but I just get a buzz flirting with taken women that I don't get as much with the single ones. I've noticed this most when I'm at work; I work in Topman, and for any that don't know its basically men's fashion. So naturally, couples are coming in shopping all the time. Its then that I just find myself drawn to these girls in particular, giving her the eye contact, the hidden messages, the push/pull banter, even if her boyfriend is stood right by her. Now this obviously all has to be fairly covert operations, for one thing I'm supposed to be working, so its often disguised as helping them out with something.
The thing is, I find that the girls often respond really well to it, maybe its something to do with the excitement of flirting with another guy when she's out with her boyfriend, or maybe because she's just bored in her relationship and is seeking that thrill. Either way, I've had scraps of paper with numbers written on it thrust into my hand when the boyfriend is changing, lingering eye contact and winks as she turns her head to face me as she walks away and even one girl who was pushing the physical contact when her boyfriend was literally metres away, behind the curtain trying on a jacket.
Anyway, the point of all this isn't that I'm trying to boast, I'll admit i'm no expert at this game, but the problem is that I don't want this attraction. If a girl and a guy are in a good relationship then I don't want to break that up for my own desires, I'm not a selfish guy and in the same position i'd hate to have that happen to me. Not only this, but going for taken girls means a much lower success rate!
So, is this something everyone comes across? And how should I go about sorting this out?