So, I'm on this dating site. Well, actually, meeting girls in real life is much more fun, but when you're talking to persons of the other sex on a dating site, at least you both know what you're up to. And if the other person is available or not, to name but one example.
Anyway, whatever my reasons are, I find that chatting/mailing with girls is much different from contact in real life. Firstly, a lot of them tend to not respond to messages. Which of course leaves the 'why' question. Another big question is: what am I going to say to her? Obviously a 'hi, let me introduce myself to you' isn't going to work! Well, not out of the box, that is.
So, what I do is this. Obviously I write only to those girls which have a profile that triggers my interest (which I do not base on photo's only
). In my message, I firstly make some kind of humorous remark about her profile (tough man! I sure wish I was born a stand-up comedian). Secondly, I ask her something about herself.
But what seems to work best is my own current profile. Currently, I only have one photo on it, which of course I should expand. However, what's more interesting is the text I've put on the profile. When prompted for what my 'ideal match' criteria would be, I was like: well, let's fill in what I honestly want. So right now it reads something like this (translated from my native language, so might sound a little awkward here and there):
"Describe your ideal match:
Oh, that's a question I'll have answered quickly. You are the most fascinating woman to walk the earth. And you are well aware of this. You are absolutely stunning, because of your long brown hair and dark eyes, or blond hair and blue eyes. But because beauty is common, your personality is fantastic as well. You're not shallow at all, but a little unpredictable, and maybe you're even somewhat of a quick tempered person. And you're so sweet. You never try to command me, you're very very creative or just appreciative of expressions of creativity, and you think about life instead of just taking everything for granted."
Needless to say, I had lots of fun putting this on my profile and imagining every visitor reading this - I sure hope the looks on her face are as good as I imagine them.
Anyway, I get some responses to this statement - yep, women messaging the man, and not the other way around. Me likes.
So that's what I do. What do you guys do? Do you visit dating sites? What are your 'tactics'?