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[Kansas]

My girlfriend dumped me after a year and a half. We had a great time together, and while the breakup has been really difficult, I know that it is probably the best thing for me in the end. My biggest problem for a long time was simply thinking about how hot she is and how kind she is to everyone she sees. The post about seeing the beauty in everything and everybody rather than just searching for a flaw has helped me to notice just how many wonderful fish there are in the sea.

Anyhow --- some friends of hers told me that she was less than honest with me and was doing stuff she shouldn't have been doing while we were together. I declined any further details, but now she has been texting and calling trying to clear things up.

The breakup was entirely her idea.
It happened a month and 2 weeks ago and I've successfully kept myself from talking to her for a month and 1 week.

Should I let her know that I don't think that about her? That I know she was faithful to me? I figured it would be an excellent opportunity to let her know that I've come to the realization that this is the best thing for the both of us.

Or... should I just keep up the streak and continue to ignore her?

I guess after writing this I feel that in many ways I've answered my own question, but I don't want to be a dick and completely ignore her anymore.
Thanks guys.

[Scott D]

The solution I see here is for you to write a note, perhaps call her on the phone, and explain that you don't believe whatever rumors your friends told you, and that even though you hold no harsh feelings against her, but you think it is best to just go your seperate ways. Ignoring her will make her think you are still extremely upset with her, but talking for too long about too many topics will make her think you still want to be with her. The conversation (if you decide to have it) should only be a minute or two. Say your piece and leave, simple as that.

[Seta]

I agree with Scott somewhat.  If you do talk to her on the phone, make it short.  I wouldn't do that though. I'd write to her, telling her you believe she was faithful, and that you also believe breaking up was the best thing for you and her.  After you tell her that, I personally would go back to not talking to her, or at the most make all conversations with her short.