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[abogatir]

Another theoretical question that probably cannot be applied to everyone.

I have a really good friend, an older woman whom I knew since childhood. She has been very unlucky in love just like me, as her last live-in bf threw all of her stuff in the street when he broke up with her. Anyways, we agreed that she would check out all of my potential girlfriends and give her recommendation and I would do the same for all of her boyfriends. I think this could not hurt as an outsider's opinion can always be valuable.

However, I am not sure if I would actually listen to my woman friend if she gave a bad recommendation for a girl that I am dating as she never liked my ex too much either and I ignored her advice.

So is it good to have a woman friend to "audit" the girls applying for a girlfriend position and actually take the friend's advice or is it just pointless?

[Cpt. Jackal]

I did it for sometime, but, just like I probably wouldn't listen to what I was told, so would she

It can be fun and useful to see what you read in her guys that she doesn't pick up on, and what she sees in your "candidates".

[JCZ]

Back when I was in school, my sister used to regularly recommend girls from her friend circle to me. She used to be ever so convinced that this girl would be a totally awesome match for me, etc., etc... However, when the friendship eventually cooled down, which seems to happen quite often with girls that age, her ex-friends of course wouldn't be as recommendable anymore... So my first experiences with friends 'auditing' potential girlfriends isn't that good!

So right now, no, I would never have my potential girlfriends 'screened' by one of my girl friends. I'd only take advice from people that know me very very well (which could be guys, for that matter). One can only have an opinion about someone he knows well...

[abogatir]

Don't know if guys can really tell girls as well as other girls simply because they cannot see things from her point of view but I do understand what you are saying. But then again all of my guy friends warned me about my ex and that she was a user but I foolishly ignored their advice and listened to my heart instead.   

[Scott D]

Myself, I think it's a good idea. At least to get an outside opinion, obviously don't trust blindly in the girl friend's advice. But maybe you can all go out together with a group of friends, and the girl friend can evaluate the girlfriend's body language and words and any nervous habits she might pick up on... you know, the kind of stuff that guys normally miss. If the evalutation is good, then that only serves to confirm you're feelings. If it's not, then at the very least it clues you in on what to look for, possible problems, etc.

[abogatir]

Already tried it - she gave good marks for the new girl I am dating though she stated she may be too young at 20 but ok for a rebound. I told her I already did my rebound in Washington and am currently accepting girlfriend applications. So it is not working out too well.

[JCZ]

Don't know exactly how old you are, but if the girl were 20, I'd be having doubts myself! She's in the middle of her discovery of life, how do you think a solid relationship could come from that?

That said, yes, sometimes people can give you very interesting insights you might have overlooked yourself. Still, I'd trust my own instincts.

[abogatir]

I just turned 24. Hey its fun to help young girls "discover" life don't you think? Well she has a decent job, is very mature for her age and seems genuinely interested in me. Did I mention that she is super hot?

But even if it does not work out in the long-run, don't mind having a good time with her!

[JCZ]

Ah, haha, yes, if you look at it from that point of view... Then by all means ignore other people's silly advice and help her discover the good things in life!

(and we all know exactly what you meant with that )