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[Scott D]

I decided to put off telling you guys about this until I was positive it would turn out well. A few weeks ago, I met a girl while bowling with some mutual friends. I had seen her previously, she had come bowling with some friends while I was working a couple weeks ago, and one of my first thoughts was that she was one of the most gorgeous girls I've ever seen. But she had been with a guy then so I assumed they were still dating. I got word from someone the night we met that they had recently broken up and she had been asking a little about me, so I decided to go for it.

We ended up hanging out for a couple hours that night after we finished bowling. I took her to get some food then we went to a park to talk and listen to music. She invited me to her house the next day to watch a movie, and of course I accepted. She gave me all the classic signs that she was interested--lingering eye contact, flirtacious physical contact, laughing at all my jokes no matter how lame they were. It seemed like she was totally captivated. And you know the best part? It was like I didn't even have to try.

I was wary of getting involved with her, because I know initial attraction does not always last, but we spent a lot of time hanging out the next few weekends. It got to the point where I stopped worrying about if her feelings were going to change, so I asked her, "Are we dating now or what?" She told me some story about how she was seeing some guy a while back and they went to a party together. One of her friends asked if they were dating, she said yes, but he said no. Ever since then, she's always waited for the guy to come out and say they were officially together, she never made the first assumption. I took one of her hands in mine, and with my other hand reached up to her face, brought her in close for a kiss and told her, "In that case, you're mine."

We've only been officially together for a few days now, but I really like her, and she is already very attached. I'm still pretty cautious about moving too fast because I don't want either of us to get hurt, but things are really looking up. If we play our cards right, this relationship is going to last a very long time. And above of, I'm happy with her. What could be better? 

[Brent G]

Scott, I praise YOU lmaoo
You are very lucky!!!!
That little story at the end, the kissing action, that was truly romantically epic
From that, all JKTC members know that girl is now hooked onto you. Nice moves.
Just take it slow. No matter how much she is into, take it slow. Reel in the fish slowly if you understand.
The little you show her things about you and stuff you can do, the more she'll want and like. Kinda like getting a piece of popcorn when you want the whole bowl of popcorn. Its a tease. Girls like that. But keep doing your thang.

[abogatir]

Way to go Scott my man! Keep it up and enjoy every moment!

[Adam]

That's not lucky Scott, that's just you getting what you deserved from being great with her. Nice one! Just remember to always keep a little mystery, always keep it fresh so she can't get bored.

[Adam]

That's not lucky Scott, that's just you getting what you deserved from being great with her. Nice one! Just remember to always keep a little mystery, always keep it fresh so she can't get bored.

[JCZ]

Cool! Congratulations! I wish you both the best.

[Scott D]

Thanks everyone. I know I played my cards to perfection with her, but it all just seemed so natural, I didn't put up any facade or act in a way to impress. It just sort of happened. She's admitted that she finds me very intriguing so I'm not very worried about her losing interest anytime soon. She is already very attached, and I'm enjoying it. She's a very social butterfly so I'm guaranteed not to get bored either. I think it's the start of a really great relationship and I can't wait to see where it all leads. 

[Anthony Parkes]

Nice one Scott! You deserve it man Keep up the good work... What's nice is it came naturally, as you said you didn't even feel the need to impress her. So that's good, even excellent =D. I wish you more luck

Cheers!

Anthony

[Alex]

Aww man it was in the cards, wasn't it 

You truly deserve it Scotty, you do... You're a great guy.

Now - give her a big kiss from me, will ya not?

[Cpt. Jackal]

Great job!

Always remember, if and when you feel like it's only luck, and a part of you says that you don't deserve it, that:

Luck is when OPPORTUNITY meets PREPARATION and it's spelled W-O-R-K!

It means that you had your cards right when the possibility presented itself, and you made the most of what you had.

[Scott D]

Just a little thought processing here, no need to respond really.

We just had our one-month anniversary, I surprised her with dinner and a movie. I showed up at her house with a rose, her favorite chocolate bar, and a heart I made out of zip-ties. She loved every second of it. Things seem to be going really well. She really likes me, we go out a lot, spend a lot of time together, always seem to have fun even when we're just sitting on the couch watching TV. But I'm worried...

I don't doubt her affection for me. I believe her when she tells me how much she likes me (she even admitted she thinks she loves me, though if she does, I think she may be a little disillusioned about what love is). She appears like the girl of my dreams. Smart, beautiful, we agree on just enough issues to get along but we're different enough to keep it interesting. But I'm worried because I don't feel that spark... you know, the one that tells you this girl is quite possible the one you're going to marry. Don't get me wrong, I really, really like her, and am really glad she's my girlfriend... but I think I'm having a hard time letting my guard down. I'm happy. That's for sure. But I'm not head over heels like I feel I should be. And unfortunately, I can't tell whether or not time will change that. I'm trying to enjoy the time we spend together now, but I'm a very future-oriented person, and I'm beginning to have doubts about whether this will work in the long run (years down the line).

[Alex]

Just a little thought processing here, no need to respond really.

We just had our one-month anniversary, I surprised her with dinner and a movie. I showed up at her house with a rose, her favorite chocolate bar, and a heart I made out of zip-ties. She loved every second of it. Things seem to be going really well. She really likes me, we go out a lot, spend a lot of time together, always seem to have fun even when we're just sitting on the couch watching TV. But I'm worried...

I don't doubt her affection for me. I believe her when she tells me how much she likes me (she even admitted she thinks she loves me, though if she does, I think she may be a little disillusioned about what love is). She appears like the girl of my dreams. Smart, beautiful, we agree on just enough issues to get along but we're different enough to keep it interesting. But I'm worried because I don't feel that spark... you know, the one that tells you this girl is quite possible the one you're going to marry. Don't get me wrong, I really, really like her, and am really glad she's my girlfriend... but I think I'm having a hard time letting my guard down. I'm happy. That's for sure. But I'm not head over heels like I feel I should be. And unfortunately, I can't tell whether or not time with change that. I'm trying to enjoy the time we spend together now, but I'm a very future-oriented person, and I'm beginning to have doubts about whether this will work in the long run (years down the line).

Dude, you're young. I see where you are coming from with these worries, I really do, but realize that it's all in your head. Enjoy what you can now and just take it for what is

[Scott D]

She dumped me last night. Out of nowhere it seems. Her reasoning? She doesn't trust me because I'm still friends with my ex. It doesn't matter that I spent nearly all of my free time with her (and I had very little free time, mind you), it doesn't matter that I brought her flowers and took her out to movies and dinner, or that I was the best lover she's ever had. She let her paranoia get the best of her, and now I'm the one hurting.

I realize it's for the best, because looking at it objectively our relationship was doomed to fail, and yes I do blame her. She might have cared about me, but I loved her. There's a big difference. She couldn't get her head around the fact that I was faithful, she just wouldn't believe it. And you can't date someone you don't trust. I miss her, and I'm going to miss her for a long time, but I'm just trying to remind myself that it was her misgivings and not anything I did that caused it.

[JCZ]

Ouch. That's not good. I feel for you, Scott. Best of luck for you in dealing with this. I sure hope you'll find the one girl you're looking for.

By the way, what did you think was to be seen objectively about your relationship being doomed to fail? Might be an interesting question to sort out...

[Scott D]

She isn't the kind person to settle for second-best in anything, and she couldn't stand the fact that I had another girl (my best friend) whom I cared for. It didn't matter that I had no romantic feelings towards her, just the fact that there was another girl in my life whom I cared about bothered her to no end. And we had a lot of arguments about it. After I told her how much my friend means to me, and made it clear I would not end my friendship for my girlfriend, she told me it was ok and that she'd get over it and everything would work out. Truth be told, she didn't care about anyone but herself and she was being selfish. Relationships are always two-way streets. She expected me to give everything, while not having to give any effort herself.