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abogatir

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Should I get revenge on my ex?
« on: June 21, 2009, 05:29:04 PM »
AAH, I want revenge on the bitch. >:( >:( >:( Today I feel nothing but anger, I even have an idea. Considering I am a VP of a newsletter group that my ex is a part of, I was thinking of sending out a Public Service Announcement to all the member including her simply announcing that my gf is a slut before resigning from my position. This would allow me to humiliate her in fron of all of our mutual friends just like she humiliated me with her date in fron of some of our other mutual friends.

The worst that could happen was that she will cry to her parents who will contact my parents but that does not scare me.

It would feel so great to do it, but I don’t know if I would regret it later! Advice?
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2009, 08:35:07 PM »
NOOOOOOOOOO
Never resort to revenge!!!
It messes lots of stuff up
If your plan becomes a success, you are hurting your ex, making her go into negative places in her mind, maybe one being getting back at you for what you did, and ladies can be smart and come up with worst things than your plan. Also, your sending out a message that you are a asshole to other women who have heard or viewed the announcement. Thats not going to help. Plus your consquence you thought of should scare you. You don't know how your parents are going to punish you.

What you should do is follow Alex's blog about moving on from an ex, the latest blog he has up, the one with the amazing examples. Or other blogs about Exs OR read other stories on here. It should really help.

Revenge is sweet, but it can turn sour.
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2009, 08:42:46 PM »
Thanks Brent,

I am reading that blog right now. I just felt that it would be better for me to put all my negative thoughts out in writing instead of keeping them in my head. I knew that doing something like that would take away any moral high ground I have. Its just the thought of her and all the moments we shared for the past 4 years and some other guy just stealing all that away just unable to go away. I am trying the whole facing the pain idea at this point and remembering everything my ex did wrong like not want to have sex and criticize me for my taste in music, as well as embarassing me in front of my friends.

Its just that I am at this point where the worst seems to have happaned already and my fear is gone, hence my mind keeps coming up with devious ways to make my ex feel as bad as I do. Will keep reading Alex's blog, I can relate to most people but think my situation is unique cause we have broken up 4 times prior to this and found ways to get back together. I knew I should not have re-started the relationship 3 years ago but it is way too late now!
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #3 on: June 22, 2009, 06:16:15 PM »
If you're going to write about how much you hate her, do it in a journal, not in a public paper. Brent is right--the consequences of doing so outweigh the benefits.
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #4 on: June 22, 2009, 08:38:50 PM »
Thanks guys,

I realize it was a terrible idea I had but I just wanted to get it out of my system. Posting about it here was the only thing I could think of.
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #5 on: June 23, 2009, 09:19:24 AM »
You know, it almost sounds like it could be the beginning of some drama movie. Girl dumps guy, guy plays his revenge card, girl plays her own revenge, guy apologizes, girl continues to be a bitch, guy moves on, girl comes crawling back, guy leaves it alone because he is happy. The end.

Or maybe I'm just crazy.  :P
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #6 on: June 24, 2009, 05:05:41 AM »
Scott, you're a little crazy  ;)

Anyway, I'm glad you got it out of your system Alex!
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #7 on: July 07, 2009, 12:23:58 PM »
In Italian we have a saying: Ponti d'oro
bridges of gold to anyone you want to get rid of, so they get the hell out of the way!

Don't worry. I strongly believe there is justice, and have often seen that folks who do us harm will eventually pay their bills, with interest.

Keep your focus on yourself. Don't go out of your way to be nice or to do harm, and you will be respected for it. Again, what goes around comes around, and they'll all get what's in the mail for them when the time is right.
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #8 on: July 07, 2009, 09:14:00 PM »
I love the Italian phrase - wish I could do it. But all I want is for my ex to be as miserable as I am, to understand what she did to me. I even have some great ideas like annonymously registering her as a call girl and have clients call her. Just making her cry would bring such happiness to me.  :)

It is a bit too late to build her a bridge of gold I guess. But I do not plan to be vengeful.

I have truly turned to the Dark Side of the Force  ;)
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #9 on: July 09, 2009, 12:08:18 PM »
Quote from: abogatir on July 07, 2009, 09:14:00 PM
I love the Italian phrase - wish I could do it. But all I want is for my ex to be as miserable as I am, to understand what she did to me. I even have some great ideas like annonymously registering her as a call girl and have clients call her. Just making her cry would bring such happiness to me.  :)

It is a bit too late to build her a bridge of gold I guess. But I do not plan to be vengeful.

I have truly turned to the Dark Side of the Force  ;)

NONONO?!

Oh please Alex. You're so much better than this. I know that. No vengeance.

Listen to our advice!  :)
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #10 on: July 09, 2009, 12:40:31 PM »
I promise I won't - its just the thoughts do not leave my mind no matter how much I work out and hang out with other girls.

Plus, I cheated on her twice (though I did it as one night only type of deals) and once when we were "friends with benefits" so what right do I have to call her slut/whore and be angry at her.? My emotions are completely illogical. At least she formally broke up with me before seeing other guys-though I bet she cheated on me too just by the amount of lies I heard from her.
« Last Edit: July 09, 2009, 01:00:25 PM by abogatir »
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Re: Should I get revenge on my ex?
« Reply #11 on: July 10, 2009, 10:14:57 AM »
I see. Good. But regarding cheating and lying etc...

Fuck that now, it doesn't matter anymore! :)
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