Recently I've met three women I'm interested in, as they are not only very attractive, but share strong common interests and values. Two are in the process of breaking up with their husbands, and they have kids.
One of these two called me up one night last weekend, after I had been out with her twice that week along with some other guys. I was having some friends over for an impromptu dinner. She asked me to pick her and bring her over. I did, and as the evening progressed, she asked me for a tour of the house, which ended up with us having sex in my bedroom, but no sleepover. She jumped on me like she hadn't had sex in years, which might have just been the case. Extremely hot. I've seen her and talked with her a couple of times since then, but she's in a twister with her breakup situation and not exactly available for a relationship right now, which is too bad, because I really like her. She's trying the "let's be friends" thing now on me, but the conversation did turn to where she asked, "so if I just feel like having sex, I can call?" Now, I don't know if she was attempting to appease me (as I was attempting to return her to her earlier comfort level, which had dissipated some due to her confusion and guilt at having acted like a slut.) or if she really would like that. Only a drink two may tell.
Now, the other two, I had invited to come over for a little party I threw at my house, but both were unavailable that time, but did each write me an email thanking me and asking me to let them know when I have another such event. One closed by saying, "nice meeting you." I met her on a pub crawl and had a pleasant talk. The other I met on a hike organized by one of her roommates.
So here are my questions:
1) The one I had sex with I've talked with this morning and may be seeing later this week. Any tips on avoiding both the "friend" and "courting" traps and getting back to the hot sex?
2) With the other two, I made the mistake of replying to their emails immediately, which I think showed too much interest. That was 3-5 days ago. How should I approach contacting them again?