The JKTC Café

Agree with Scott 100% here!

Thanks for the thoughtfull words Scott. To answer your question, NO! None of the four girls know about each other's existance as they are from different social groups. One is only 18 and is just enrolling in college, one is 20 and is in a college up north, another is 22 and working, and the one I am most interested in is 24 and an exchange law student. The last one is the only one I am really interested in having a serious relationship. I genuinely care about her as she is smart, full of energy, has similar interests to mine, and is just fun to be around.

Regarding rebounds, don't know if this would count as one as I already did my rebound in Washington but can one really be 100% over an ex without having a new girlfriend? I mean it would be a rebound in a way but would not any serious relationship after a rough break-up be counted as a rebound?

Even Alex seemed to mention how important it is to meet other girls after a breakup in his main article.

So yes, I sense that if I do get serious with her than it would help me to not think about my ex as she would fill the empty void I have in my heart but would this count as a rebound if I want it to last? I guess just hard for me to pinpoint what exactly rebound means in this situation.

Don't wish her a happy birthday, it will make her miss you and perhaps value what she lost. By wishing her happy birhday you are implicitly giving her approval for treating you like she did. Stay strong!

Wow- I know how you feel. Seeing old postcards from my ex that say "I love you" still send chills down my spine. Definitely put it away for now.

Hello everybody,

Alex B is back after an extended absence. Been catching up on everyone's ex's stories and my heart goes out to everyone who has ever lost someone they truly loved.

Anyway, have been keeping the no contact rule since early-July (July 5th to be exact). It was very difficult at first as I could not think about anything other than my ex. However, getting a new job, taking a week off to visit my cousin in California, and reading some philosophy books seemed to distract me. When I returned to my hometown at the end of July I was instantly busy at work. Also spent a lot of time working out as well as biking or running long-distances.

Yet I still found time to use social-networking sites to find and meet girls. Dating 4 girls at the moment. This is very convenient since if one of them is busy, I can just call one of the other 3. Just focusing on having a good time with them, going to fairs, amusement parks, movies, restaurants, and just getting to know them. I seem to genuinely enjoy trying out different jokes, flirts, and testing their reactions. I have not gotten past hugs and kisses on cheeks with any of them and I like one in particular more than the other three who happens to be an exchange student  I may have complemented her a little too much, telling her how smart she is. But I seem to sense some interest from her. Don't really want to break it off with others since I want to keep options open.

Regarding my ex, I still have angry thoughts about her and the new guy she is dating. I often fantazize about revenge but it is not as frequent as it used to be. My thoughts about her tend to be negative, writing some poetry seemed to help. I seem to have a sense that as soon as I get serious with one of the girls I am dating I will forget about her and the pain will be gone. Just having trouble making the transition from occasional hand holding, flirting, and hugging to actually kissing. Read the article about that so try to maintain eye contact. But basically I try not to make it my main goal, but keeping it as secondary. Hope to go to the mountains with one of the girls as it would be a more intimate setting.

Anyways, thanks for everyone's support - will stop by here once in a while to read whats new.

Welcome aboard Sean. Yeah just repost it in the Ex stories section

Way to go Manrevo for letting go of this one. I had a similar situation with my ex but I could not let go off her and hung on till the bitter end. Kudos to you for avoiding my sad story 

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Yeah compliments have to be genuine. I tended to overcompliment a little on my last date 

Yeah, she is unrealible just like my ex so forget about her for now...

Honestly, I've learned that you can never know too many girls, only too few. I think their flaws give them personality. I find that the benefits of interacting with girls to always outweigh the costs of getting used to their flaws.

Sorry I've gone awhile, been busy looking for an ideal girl Went on a lot of dates and interviewed many applicants. Here is what I am looking for.

-It would not necessarily be the girl next door - but she would live close by.
-She would be intelligent, interested in science fiction, be knowledgable about histroy, enjoy following world soccer (football) and enjoy biking/maybe jogging in the morning
-I would love for her to take me to an amusement park and insist on riding the scariest ride
-I would know she is the one the moment I hear her bragging to her friends about how wonderful I am

Brent I am a bit of a journalist and amateur writer - would love to edit your story. Feel free to bounce your ideas off of me.

Alex B.

Just for the record - the decision has been made for me. It is No Contact for sure and I know now that I can never forgive betrayal. My ex made up some BS about me stalking her to the cops, luckily the cop I talked to appeared normal and said that there are too many holes in her story. He told me that I have not done anything wrong and that there will be no investigation or report. He even told me that I deserve a better girl than one that cheats on me with 2 guys and tries to make-up false criminal charges. The cop said that she sounded like she was having a nervous breakdown when she called in. I told him what actually happaned and about the last phonecall and he seemed to believe me. I thanked him for doing his job, he told me to tell him if she ever tries contacting me again.

Never expected the girl I loved to try something like this. Now my love must die as traitors do not deserve to be loved.

I am sure karma will come back. I only wished I had listened to my friends about my ex rather than my heart but it is all behind me now.

C'est La Vie

Since she did not answer you go to no contact.