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[Brent G]

I stumbled upon this article on AskMen.com and it titled words "The Cocky & funny Approach"!

I always thought being cocky & funny is the worst and stupidest thing to be doing to attract a girl. It just makes you look shallow and an idiot.

But then after reading it my beliefs were totally wrong!

I never noticed it myself but when I want to attract women during a conversation. I tend to tease by being cocky a little, and saying I'm the best of the best just to play around. And I always try to be funny saying jokes or turn the harsh realities of my day into a joke that would make her drink fill out her nose lmfaoo. I even challenge the girl I speak with to see if she is more concieded as a joke then me. It really helps alot and makes a girl smile and have a good time.

After a conversation like that Women are hooked. The great things are always blind to you, you just have to look around to see it.
This woke me up even though its a short article. I'm not saying you should use this Cocky & Funny approach, but its the one I see all the most attractive guys I know use to attract women.
Is there another good approach to use?
Any belive this is bad or good?

Here's the article: http://ca.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_300/345_dyd.html

[JCZ]

Cocky & Funny is good because it naturally 'breaks the ice'. You accomplish 2 things by it: you show your self confidence (you're not afraid to boast a little about what and who you are, as opposed to being the nice guy that almost doesn't seem to have the guts to admit he's actually good in certain areas), and you use humor which is such an ideal mechanism for breaking the ice and making her feel cool around you.

I just returned from holidays; there was this guy that wasn't especially good in 'getting the girls' (at one point, I had to send the fellow back to the girl that got interested in him, because I saw what was happening and he himself did not). But he was so freaking cocky & funny he became one of the most popular guys of the group. If he would want to become a player (which he obviously didn't want), he would be instantly successful.

He got this girl not by 'connecting' to her, etc., etc. (which I tried but not entirely succeeded in), but by teasing her, as he did with everyone else. This got him to appear like a very confident, self-aware guy - and to me he admitted to being quite shy.

So I'd say your view of c&f is not correct - in fact, it's the most natural way of attracting girls. However, it's easily overused. And, when used correctly, it leads to a lot of jealousy with men that obviously need to work on their alpha maleness and self confidence themselves.

[Brent G]

Yeah it is overused.
But think of it as a strategy. There are different ways to getting to the touchdown. Right?
I just would like to know if there is more different ways instead of being cocky & funny?
Like all I can think of right now is James Bond and his smooth and mysterious approach to women? If that's right?
Is there such thing as smooth and mysterious? What does it mean and how does it work?

[JCZ]

Be wary of the Hollywood cliches, Brent. James Bond-like men surely exist, but I think it's a skill that requires a lot of refinement. I regularly see guys trying to approach like that and come across as total creeps. If you go with a bit of C&F, the worse that can happen is that you look like an idiot - which, IMO, is easier to resolve later on than being looked upon as a creep.

Also, don't look at the 'method', but see what it does. You want to break the ice and her to feel at ease with you. Next, you want her to feel attracted to you. I find a bit of humor to work excellent (in fact, THE 'seduction' tip everywhere to be found is to get her laughing and having a fun time), but if you find anything to work better, then by all means do that.

By the way, it occurs to me that you're regularly asking questions about things that might be a bit general. How about posting something a bit more specific - a 'field report', if you'd want to call it that way? It'd be interesting for us to read - for me anyway - and if you encounter difficulties, we are able to comment on it from our personal point of view.