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[Adam]

I think everyone has summed it up pretty well.

The main thing to overcome many problems is to do things outside of your comfort zone. Of course when you see an attractive woman you don't feel like you can talk to her, but just throw yourself into it. as long as you are not weird then the worst that can happen is that the conversation dies out and you part. but you know what, the next time you do this will be slightly easier, and so the time after that. One day you'll reach a point where talking to new people is almost as easy as talking to your best mates, and there is where the real success lies.

You can do it!

[JCZ]

Sounds as though you master this skill! Which means it's learnable. Well, practice hasn't made perfect yet, but I do sense my feelings of anxiety getting less. I'll post an update soon!

[Adam]

An update to this, I've had some time off over the summer and I've done a bit of reading on dating and attraction. A great deal of it is advertisment and rubbish but I found a couple of nuggets. And here's one that worked for me.

Its a simple exercise but it does wonders and goes like this; when you next go out, say hi to all the girls you see. I'm talking suitable ones here as in, around your age. So smile warmly, say hi with some good eye contact and carry on walking.

Now, the first one I did of these was horrible, it took about 15 mins of just walking round until I got the courage, but I did it and felt so embarrased, so awkward and so like I wanted to get out of there. But the second time was a little easier and so on.

The point of this is to be embarrased, maybe by some weird chance some will stop to talk to you. If so, great, but the main idea is just to completely get rid of your nervousness in approaching.

So give it a go