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[ssabala808]

well me and my ex have been going out for about 8 months. i no compared to some of ou guys eight months is like a blink of an eye but i loved her so much. i would have done anything for her. my ex broke up with me. she broke it off becuase i was mad at her for checkin out and hitting on other guys, she keeps trying to make me feel like shit by saying “you shoulda known i was just joking” This was my first real relationship like ever. we were going out for 8 months. and wats real fucked up is that i figure out she has another boyfriend like 3 weeks later, its so painful thinkin about it. i remember i logged on to myspace and looked at her page, i saw her new bf and theres no trace of me at all on her myspace at all, she took me off her top, everything. i just cant believe it. after 8 months she can get over me in 3 weeks? i keep asking myself what did i do wrong, how could i have changed to prevent this from happening. i keep hoping she’ll run back to me. shes hurt me so much. its been a month since we broke up and this is the worst month of my life. i would rather die then live feeling like this. now when i see her i still get butterflies in my stomach and everywhere we used to see eachother id still look up and look for her. when she passes me its like i dont exist, like nothing happend in those 8 months. please help me. i cant take it, all i can do is think about her and i cant sleep at nite. when i do fall asleep i dream about her and wake up with tears in my eyes. i cant believe she replaced me with another guy so fast. and it hurts to think that everything she used to tell me, i love you, your my everything. everything she told me shes probably telling him and its killing me please help

[Alex]

Ouch.
I know how you feel.
The tears at night thing... Been there. It's awful.
But you know what? It will get better. A lot better, actually.
It's these experiences that form you and makes you grow.
It is at this hardest time that you truly get to know yourself.
And you know what? You'll live. I swear. I know I did.
Know I'm stronger than ever.
Your situation is tough, but remember that it could always be worse.
You're in good health, you're alive; what's more to ask?

I'm in quite a hurry so that's all for now.
On a sidenote, I know that you have come to the right place 

[Scott D]

When it's most difficult and you feel about to break down, just keep reminding yourself of what she did. Accept the negative feelings, allow yourself to get just a little bit angry, and realize that a girl like that is simply not worth your time. I've been there, nearly in the exact same situation. Even though you can't force yourself to stop loving her, you can get over her with a bit of effort and some time.

[ssabala808]

thanks guys i really needed it. its just hard thinking that after all the i love you's and your my everything, she was able to find another guy in 3 weeks. and shes probably saying the same thing to him... it just makes me feel so worthless. i mean i would have done anything for this girl. if she called me up at 2 in the morning and said she needed me then i would have been there in a heartbeat. i tried so hard to make her happy. i think that part of me is scared that i wont ever be able find another girl like her... i think im scared of being alone

[James]

hi ssabala808 - just read your story - if you read down through mine were in a pretty similar situation - whatever you do dont make the mistakes i made by constantly texting her, etc - trying to get back with her.  My Ex as soon as she broke with me went on dates with the guy she dated before me who treated her like crap!

Im still finding it so hard to get over her as well - i think about her all the time - the best thing you can do man is delete her number from your phone, delete her from your myspace etc - get her out of your life first for a month - do everything you can to forget her - give her mob number to your a family member and ask them to hold on to it for a month - you may find she even trys to contact you before this - go out with your friends, hit the gym, go shopping and treat yourself.  It will get better with time man and start going out again and chatting to new girls.  Thats what ive been trying to do even though i still really love my ex - its like the qoute:

“If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.”

who knows what will happen in time - if you try and move on with your life and not worry about her and delete her from your facebook, etc she may start to miss you and want to get back.

[victor1]

Dude I'm sorry to hear what happened. Just keep your head up man, My EX and I broke up a month ago, and we were together for almost 4 years. BTW My EX and I also lived together for 3 years. Imagine how much pain im going through right now, but all I can do is to hang in there. Like what Alex said you will live. The sooner you let go and accept the situation the faster you will heal. And remember NO CONTACT! In my case, my main problem is that I can't seem to accept the situation, because in my situation apparently there is still hope. Good luck brah!

[ssabala808]

im doing much better, i dont think about her alot and i havent seen her in like a week. the only times i really get depressed is when i have nothing to do. but when i keep busy is gone from my mind. and if she comes in my mind she doesnt stay. but at nite i still have dreams about her. last nite i had a dream i was begging her to go back out wit me. i woke up and i was so dissapointed in myself....

[Scott D]

Glad to hear things are getting better. Keep yourself busy and soon enough you won't think about her at all. As for your dream, it was indeed only a dream, no need to get worked up about it. You're on the right path man, and I'm proud of you for handling it this well so far.

[ssabala808]

lol ya well im getting over her slowly. do u think its bad if i get in another relationship? i dont wanna break someones heart like how mines is broken but i dont wanna break my heart even more. i miss being able to hug a girl and give her a kiss. i miss feeling like someone out there actually cares. sooo what do u think i should do?

[victor1]

IMO I would wait till you are completely over your EX. I actually went out with a chick 2 nights ago right after I visited my EX, and I felt a huge guilt and I just didn't feel like hanging out with the new chick. I felt very uncomfortable, it felt really weird, like I was cheating on my Ex or something. Just do NO CONTACT! Sucks for me I saw my EX on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Sigh, now I feel like I'm back on day one!!!

[ssabala808]

well im sick and tired of being depressed. i just wanna move on with my life. i tired of always feeling like shit, im tired of having dreams about her at nite. im tired of waking up with tears in my eyes. sometimes i wish i could just die

[Scott D]

It's normal to feel like that. Unfortunately there really isn't much you can do other than try to keep yourself occupied and give it time. You are better off without her, as hollow as it may sound. It's really not the end of the world, believe me.

As for dating other girls... it would be very beneficial to go out on dates and have fun, get your mind off your ex. But don't start anything serious until you are completely ready to take that leap. Don't put yourself on a "rescue mission" because more than likely it won't work and you'll end up hurting just as much as (or more than) you already were.

You'll get through it soon, and you'll be much better off for the experience.

[ssabala808]

i cant handle it anymore. it feels like ive lost all motivation to live life. i hate it i saw her the other day and seeing her having fun with without me killed me inside. seeing her move on. also hearing that she hangs out with her new boyfriend everyday. i mean she hooked up with them 3 weeks after we broke up our 8 month relationship. how long can she b in the relationship. she cant have any true feelings for him can she? i dont even care anymore but im at the end of my rope. i cant sleep for more than 6 hours at a time. i wanna die. im really considering it. nothings goin rite anymore and i just wanna die. please help me i dont know what else to do, ive nlost motivation for everything... i dont wanna live anymore

[zizu]

Wow dude trey and relax. If you really feel like that its important you talk to someone straight away, like a close friend (preferably a girl there better listeners) Iv been broken up with my ex for 6 months and it still sucks, but every passing days things get a little bit better. Make sure u keep up the no contact thing, thats VERY important. I found this one line very helpful in changing my view of the relationship:

Dont view the break up as the end, view it as the begining of something new and exciting!

Over the next few months make a few little self improvements, go to the gym( will help with your sleeping problem if you go in the evening), buy new clothes cos its important to feel that you look good and learning something new like playing the guitar.


KEEP POSITIVE, UR LIFE IS TO IMPORTANT TO WASTE

[ssabala808]

she broke up with her bf and i just found out. it was easy not running back to her because i knew she already had a bf but now she broke up shes single again. please someone help me by telling me im stupid so i dont go running back to her like how i REALLY want to rite now.