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[Lou]

I read somewhere that if you tell a girl your feelings too soon, might as well kiss your chances goodbye. Well i havent dated the girl yet but i think she knows i have feelings for her. We work for the same company but we seldom see each other like once a month, and i can tell she's attracted to me. I got her handphone number but she's disinterested when i call, so one time i get pissed off and told her, you're too nice for me, bye. She said agree. I still have feelings for this girl but I am not taking this shit from her. I still wanna date her but i don't wanna chase her anymore. What's your call, guys?

[Scott D]

It sounds like you are in a similar situation to what I just got out of. I had been interested in a girl, and she knew it, but she didn't want to be more than just friends. So I broke it off entirely. We don't even speak to each other now. The best (and hardest) thing to do is just let it go. Never admit that a girl is too nice, or too good, or too hot, or too whatever for you, because chances are just as likely that the opposite is true (meaning YOU are too good for HER). If she can't recognize that, she really isn't worth it.

[Lou]

Thanks Scott. More details. I think it would help your advicing me to know that I'm filipino and this girl is malaysian-chinese. I said "you're too nice for me" in sarcasm. But yeah i know i have to let it go, coz for some reason it is not working out for me. Its just funny coz everytime i meet her in person, she seems happy to see me and stare at me for the longest time. The other day, she texted me something like this: ur a very nice guy, i believe there are many girls attracted to you, if u can be more outspoken many girls will come after you. Well thats it i guess. Its been more than a week since i communicated with her and yeah, its best that i keep on ignoring her.

[Scott D]

If you happen to see her, whether she calls you or you run into her at the office or whatever, be polite, pretend she's just another coworker. Don't go out of your way for her, period. It is going to suck quite a bit while you get over her, but imagine how much worse it would be if you got together and she ended up breaking your heart. You can do better, and you deserve much better than that. 

[Lou]

Yeah it still sucks, just gotta let it go and learn from it.

[Lou]

Well i told a friend about this, he works in the same office as the girl, he said he's gonna ask the girl about it, i dont think its a good idea but i dont think i have talked him out of it. He thinks that i should continue on pursuing the girl. Oh man, i dont think its a good idea at all.

[Alex]

How can you honestly say that you have feelings for her?
Not to be rude or anything, but do you know what that even means?

Dude. She's just a girl. If you are willing to go for it, do it. Fuck that text message stuff, meet up with her in real life.
If she seems "happy to see you" and "attracted to you", and you "like her", I can't see the problem.

Go for it.
And if not, and god knows you have a lot of excuses , let her go.
Simple as that!