Finally, I'm dating her... now this chick gave me a really hard time. Let me explain.
Her name is Kate, I know her since October, and it's been a rollercoaster ride for both of us. We have a best friend in common, Sarah, to whom we both say everything, so as you can imagine it's been a nightmare for her. Anyway we pretty much both loved each other the whole time but neither of us made a move because both of us didn't want to date someone with whom we spent half the time arguing with.
Anyway it's just been 4 months of game-playing, her flirting with other guys, ignoring me, me getting angry, her coming to ask me why, me not answering her. So we got into one of those fights recently.
She sent me an email telling me she was sick of fights and games, and that she needed me, she begged me to call her. I answered I was sick of her lies and backstabbing, and I was on the verge of never talking to her again. It escalated, but an one point she told me she was just too scared to lose me, and that she was feeling so pathetic arguing with me. And then I told her she wasn't. And for the next 30 minutes it was just the two of us flirting like hell and saying how much we liked each other.
The next day, she came to see me, asking "what went wrong?" I was angry against her because she had bet with a friend she would make out with another guy on Thursday, so I basically told her to get lost, and when I came back to apologize, she told me to get lost (in public - ouch...)
Thursday, we were both at a big party in an empty lobby, everyone was having a great time. I attempted to talk to her again. She basically told me she was trying to "move on", that she was sick of crying and being depressed because of our story, and that next time we fighted she would just overlook it. She said she wanted to keep moving on, with or without me, and that she was young and wanted to have fun during her youth. It was a sort of semi-argument
After that, I went to talk to Sarah (my best friend). I was an emotional wreck - the girl I loved telling me she was trying to move on. I was totally depressed and regretting I hadn't moved faster. She told me "maybe it's time for you to move on too..." But I couldn't. After an hour of me crying the hell out of my eyes, I reconsidered what she had told me. I thought, "I'm young, I should have fun too, it's only ONE girl".
Here is exactly what happened next:
I went back to see Kate, and asked to talk to her. We went into an empty room, and I told her "Kate, I'm madly in love with you, and every single argument since the beginning is because of that. You have the right to know, and now the choice is yours, and it doesn't matter what it is, I'll just keep moving on. I've got nothing to lose anyway".
She looked at me, smiling, and said "I'm glad you've listened to me" after what she went for the hug, kissed me on the cheek, kissed me right next to my lips, and finally just kissed me. Our heads tilted sideways, she grabbed my hand, and we had an amazing kiss altogether. She then said "you can't imagine how many times this scene has been repeating itself in my head". She couldn't stop smiling after that, we stared into each others' eyes and just kissed the night away.
And now I'm FINALLY dating her, after all those games, emotions, both of us not wanting to, etc... What it's taught me is to be direct. When I told her I loved her, I had nothing to lose, no fear, because in my mind that was the last card I could play to try and get her. After that, I couldn't stop thinking, "what have I been doing, torturing her and myself for 4 months, when hapinness was just three words away?"
