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Manrevo

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Your way of complimenting?
« on: July 25, 2009, 10:35:02 PM »
Hey guys,

I made a post on my blog a while ago about how to effectively compliment a girl and pretty much, I'm an advocate of complimenting girls very subtly. Many people are really direct and use the cliched "I think you're beautiful" while others choose to never compliment at all and just opt for straight up teasing. However, I'm the type that pays attention to EVERY little detail and I like to let her know I like something about her that many people would never ever notice.

I think complimenting is important, but I feel that the best way to go about doing it is subtly. What are your thoughts and methods? Are you direct? Subtle? Never compliment?

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Re: Your way of complimenting?
« Reply #1 on: July 26, 2009, 04:26:38 AM »
Giving in order to just give will always give you lots back...

But, giving in order to receive will most likely not give you. Get it?

Translated: if you compliment a girl simply to make her feel good, she will like it.
But if you compliment her to make her like you, she won't.

At least, that's my experience. And take note, it sounds easier than it is.

One thing I used when I wanted to 'come from the right place' was to compliment people I wasn't interested in romantically, eg. friends and family.
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Re: Your way of complimenting?
« Reply #2 on: July 26, 2009, 09:58:19 AM »
Yep, that's absolutely true. Girls just know when you're sucking up to them and just saying nice things for the sake of saying them. That's one hole you don't really want to climb out of.
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Re: Your way of complimenting?
« Reply #3 on: August 11, 2009, 04:37:00 PM »
I'm not really into complimenting someone unless it's for something genuinely impressive. If they have achieved something difficult or took a lot of work for example, would be worth complimenting. "Your shirt is nice" or "you are beautiful" won't ever come out of my mouth because genetics allowed them to be beautiful and they didn't make the shirt. I might compliment her parents if she is good looking but that's about it.
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Re: Your way of complimenting?
« Reply #4 on: August 11, 2009, 09:25:53 PM »
I just suggest to switch it up! The goal to me is too be unique and always intresting. Being subtle worked for me alot, thanks alot Manrevo!
Also, Alex is right, compliment the girl cause she needs it, not because you want her to like you. InnerGameReframe, love your approach, give the compliment because it impresses you, not because you want to impress her. Teasing for me works wonders. I only do the sweet, nice boy compliments like "beautiful" or "pretty" rarely. Those are to me, my last resorts. But all girls are different. Some love the sweet, nice boy compliments, some like the tease, some like guys who are subtle. You have to see what kinda of girl she is like. Once you find that, run all the bases!
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Re: Your way of complimenting?
« Reply #5 on: August 19, 2009, 11:54:22 PM »
Glad it worked out for you Brent! Always good to hear some success stories!

Teasing is a wonderful technique. But beware, some girls take it too literally so you should try to play it nice and safe.

InnerGameReframe, it's a good mindset you have for yourself but the fact of the matter is that girls LIKE to be reminded that they're beautiful or that their shirt is nice. It kinda makes you look arrogant and that's the kind of attitude that'll ruin things for you.

Even if it doesn't impress you, you should still fluff her up a bit. I'm extremely unlikely to be impressed by a girl, but that doesn't mean that there are things about her that I can't say nice things about!
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Re: Your way of complimenting?
« Reply #6 on: August 23, 2009, 05:22:54 AM »
Well, I'm trying to work by the say-what-you-think frameset recently. I see this girl which is wearing something that looks just totally cool on her, so I want to say this to her. Would like the same thing to happen to me, too.

(note that I didn't say I actually DO say things like that; sometimes I do, but am still practicing on that...)
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Re: Your way of complimenting?
« Reply #7 on: August 23, 2009, 08:40:38 PM »
Yeah compliments have to be genuine. I tended to overcompliment a little on my last date  :P
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