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[mattjw_1978]

So I, as well as many of you have a few rules when it comes to girls...some things are more preferences (I don't like girls that smoke, but exceptions can be made). One rule I hold to though is not to piss in the pool/date within the same social circle/work/company. I have had many friends break this rule and go on to regret it.

So there are a few girls I work with that are a bit flirty, which is ok as long as there are no expectations. But then there is one that has clearly set her sights on me. Not dating girls at work is something I have done and will continue to do... but how do you get this across w/o angering/upsetting the girl, or having her deny everything, play it off and later act bitterly?

I'm sure other guys have run across this at one time or another. What say you?

[Anthony Parkes]

Hey Matt!
I'd say for the moment just stay cool... Don't avoid her or anything, just act like you don't see she's attracted. If she makes a move or tries to settle a date with you, then explain why you don't want to. She might pressure you, but don't give in! If those are your rules, then by all means follow them.

Quick question: would you date her if she wasn't working at the same place as you are?

Good Luck,
Anthony

[Scott D]

Hey Matt!
I'd say for the moment just stay cool... Don't avoid her or anything, just act like you don't see she's attracted. If she makes a move or tries to settle a date with you, then explain why you don't want to. She might pressure you, but don't give in! If those are your rules, then by all means follow them.

Quick question: would you date her if she wasn't working at the same place as you are?

Good Luck,
Anthony

Perfect advice.

[Anthony Parkes]

Thanks Scott, I appreciate it 

[mattjw_1978]

Thanks for the tips. Luckily I was "forced" to make a border run (you have to leave the country every 90 days when on a tourist visa).

I'm thinking it has a bit to do with proximity, as the more I find myself near her, the closer she gets and tries more often to initiate conversations. Pretending you don't notice her attraction in these cases isn't much of an option...it's fairly obvious. Hopefully that trip will be enough of a break for her to have refocused her attention elsewhere.

If she asks why we don't hang out, Ill have to deal with it then.

[mattjw_1978]

also...while she does look nice, she has two strikes against her...

1 we work together
2 she smokes

while that may not stop many other guys, they are some of my ground rules.