Do you wake up just to go to a shitty job or a boring education, just to survive another day? Or do you wake up filled with happiness, ready to take on the day and its challenges in all its glory?

And I know that we all have both our good and our bad days. But try to look at your life on a greater scale than just the last week or the last month. Are you motivated?

I would really like to know what gets you up and going every single day. Your drive, so to speak. Why do you do what you do? Later on, we’ll dive deeper into this question and explore the exciting realm of beliefs.

Personally, I try to make the world just a little bit better everyday. I don’t take the weight on my shoulders and take responsibility for every bad thing happening to everyone all the time… Nah, that’s not my style.

Make ‘em smile

But I do try to make at least one person’s day just a little bit better, everyday. I usually keep the little sentence “make ‘em smile” in the back of my head when I go through my daily errands. I say that my day is a success if I made just one person smile.

I feel that we are all obliged to improve the world we live in with our best capacity and ability to do so. That’s also one of the reasons that I’m writing this blog: to enhance, fine-tune, boost, upgrade, relieve and contribute to the lives of my fellow men. That means you.

What about you?

And so I would like to know your motivation.

I would like to know what gets you fired up. What gets you through the day. Your dreams and aspirations. Just a paragraph or two, it doesn’t have to be detailed.

The better I know you, the better I can help you, entertain you and create better value for you. So if you just do this one thing for me, I’ll take care of the rest.

It’s actually a pretty simple question :-)

What’s your motivation?
Let me know in the comments.

You are a man. So am I. So stop apologizing for it. I see it every single freakin’ day – men walking around like pussies, looking into the ground and blaming everyone but themselves for their unsuccessful lives.

It is ALL your fault. I know that this doesn’t sell. And I know that it’s not what you want to hear – but it truly is. You HAVE to start to take responsibility for your own life and for your own actions.

Man up. Grab life by its balls. You have two of them at your disposal – so use them.

• A real man is fucking honest. He speaks his mind freely about things that concern him, but he also takes into regard the feelings of others. He lives by the rule of never harming anyone intentionally (more than needed, of course. In a few cases, like a break up, some ‘harm’ is needed).
• A real man doesn’t need or seek approval from others. You probably know this; so why do you keep doing it? Start living your life with integrity and you will see that you do not need the approval of others; that, in the end, it is ONLY your opinion that matters.
• A real man trusts his instinct and his abilities. But at the same time, he is HONEST about them. If you know that you are not skilled enough to, let’s say, climb a mountain, you have two choices: Either, you learn or acquire the skills needed for the task OR you back out and direct your attention to another matter. It is as simple as this. Two choices, nothing else.
• A real man is totally upfront with his intentions. He doesn’t apologize for being a man and for wanting sex – it’s perfectly acceptable. If he feels that the time is right for getting more physical, he goes for it without hesitation.
• A real man also has only two choices regarding something he fears, like doing a bungee jump. Either he just does it, OR admits that he won’t do it. Usually, we walk away from things we fear with guilt. This is not a choice for the real man, the just keep the change man. Either he TAKES ACTION, or admits that HE WON’T. There’s no middle ground. Really wanting to do something, but succumbing to your fear is WEAK. Don’t be that guy. You will grow if you take one of these two roads, and you will shrink if you pussy out. In 90% of all cases, just do it. Breathe deep, and tell yourself that you’ll live. You will… In the other 10%, be sure that backing out is the smart thing to do. It might be you wanting to approach a girl, but you being too afraid to fuck it up, you freeze like a Popsicle on the south pole. You do nothing, and you beat yourself up over it afterwards. THIS IS WRONG. Either, you approach her, or you admit to yourself that you won’t do it and be happy with it. Maybe, you don’t approach this girl, but smile and say “hey sunshine” the next time you greet that cute girl at your local supermarket instead. But don’t let it become procrastination, instead, learn which battles to fight. Which brings me to…
• Baby steps. A real man takes baby steps. Or at least he takes action. A real man doesn’t sit around on his couch reading advice that he won’t put into practice (if he really believes it, that is… Of course you shouldn’t take advice you don’t believe in at all). But I challenge you to try. How else would you know for sure?

So please, go out NOW and do something that you
a) want to do or
b) fear to do.

Often these two overlap. Start out by smiling and looking every girl in the eyes that you see today. After a couple of times, start saying hello, maybe getting their name in the process. Soon you will find a girl you like, and you will ask her out. No tricks, just you and her. You will go for the kiss, and you will take her home if that’s what you both want.

It takes balls my friend. Good thing you have ‘em.

They tell you to do this and do that, and in reality, it’s a lot of talk with no action.

And see, I am a man of action. I stand up to my word.

So I am going to take the stress of your shoulders and put it on mine to make 2009 your best year ever.

You’re probably thinking that it sounds too good to be true, or that it’s just not possible. But let me tell you this: It’s not only very possible, it’s going to happen!

Until now, I have devoted a lot of time and energy to this website. But I figured that if I want to really help you, I’d have to step it up.

So this is what I am going to do:

• To the hundreds of commentators on the how to get over your ex girlfriend post, I am going to be writing an ebook. And not only for them, but for everybody who has trouble getting over their ex’s… And trust me, it’s more common than you think.
• For the ex girlfriend crowd, I am also going to write more blog posts. I feel that it’s a very important topic, and that I have a lot to add.
• Not only am I going to be writing more posts on getting over your ex, getting on with your life etc., but I am also going to bring in guest writers from all over the world. You have seen it before on the site, and as you know, a second opinion can often bring a new perspective to things.
• As always, all of the articles will be of the highest quality possible. Simply, the best dating related articles are to be found on Just Keep The Change dot com. You have my word for it. And if you find someone who’s better? Let me know so I can collaborate with him (or her) to give you the best value possible.

I will also

• Start up a discussion board (forum) where not only I can help you, but you guys can also help each other. Because I know that I have a lot of intelligent and smart readers who want to help, and this is truly a case of 1 + 1 = 3. Bringing a lot of smart people together equals maximum value for everybody involved. How’s that for karma?
• At any time of the day you can email me with any question that you want. I’ll give you my best possible answer, guaranteed. Emails from JKTC readers will also be my #1 priority when opening up my inbox, so you’ll get your response fast (as those of you who have emailed me already know…)
• I will listen to you. If you want anything, don’t be afraid to ask. I will do my absolute best to accommodate your needs.

I know that this was a lot of promises, but what you should know is that I will keep them all. It’s my mission, and I’m going to succeed.

I know it’s a big responsibility, but well! Bring it on baby, I’m ready :-)

A lot of very interesting stuff will happen over here at Just Keep The Change, so stay tuned… You will not be disappointed.

Your friend,
Alex