OK, so we all know that guys with booming, dark, sexy masculine voices are highly attractive to women.

But what about you? Do you have an attractive voice?

You may have. And if so – that’s great. If not, I suggest that you read on.

You don’t have to be born with a sexy voice to get one. It can be developed – trained. And I’ll show you how.

Apart from just your voice, we’ll also work on different aspects of your tonality. Your voice itself is only one of many weapons you use while you speak.

Let’s get some theory down before we begin

Speak with confidence

The easiest way to sound confident is to actually be confident.

When you know what you are talking about, and you know that you are right in the matter, you will automatically sound and be more confident. This is attractive.

Only say something when you have something to say
Over time this will raise your authority, since you always know what to say and when.

Speak slow

This is a big one. Speaking slowly projects confidence and builds intrigue.

Why? Take this example.

Average Adam walks in and gets the attention of a group. He starts speaking. But because he is afraid that they won’t listen to him for long, he starts speaking faster to keep their attention. This is a bad approach.

Now, on the other hand we have Confident Carl. He knows that the group wants to listen to him because he says a lot of interesting stuff, and generally is an interesting person. He speaks slow, so everyone can hear every word perfectly.

Now who do you think is most attractive to women, Average Adam or Confident Carl? Well, if you haven’t figured that out… It’s Carl. Big surprise ;-)

The moral? Speak slow. And…

Pronounce every word

This is also really important.

And not only should you pronounce every word, you should also pronounce every word accurately.

Mumbling is unattractive for the simple reason that it’s hard to understand what you say.

And then it doesn’t matter if you have a deep voice.

If people can’t hear you, or don’t understand you, you are going to have quite a hard time socializing.

And that’s not what we want!

Pause… And talk.

Add pauses when you talk. Simple, really. Just pause once in a while and look people in their eyes, it will add suspense and make it more interesting to listen to you. Don’t be a radio jockey!

Use hand gestures

Use your hands while you talk. At first you might be a bit self-concious about it, but soon it will become a habit. Start now!

Stand straight

This is a as much a body language thing as it is a sound thing.

When you stand straight and good – you know, like a soldier, you speak better and project more confidence.

Having a good posture is just generally healthy, too.

Practice by raising your chest. When you raise your chest, you also drop your shoulders down a little. And you straighten your neck.

Just don’t slouch! Also…

Talk louder

This is actually harder than it sounds, but getting used to speaking louder is really rewarding, especially if you enjoy the bar and club scene.

I don’t have any specific exercises or anything, just try it out in your every day life.

Don’t become obnoxious in any way, you should just speak so loud that the listener has no problem hearing what you have to say.

Having people asking you to repeat yourself because you spoke too quiet destroys the natural rhythm of a conversation, and is, on top of that really annoying.

So just speak up a little.

Be a better breather

I have a whole post on good breathing here: Start Breathing When It Matters The Most and Get More.

It’s all about breathing deep. Get the air all the way into your belly.

Just place your hand on your stomach, and breathe in. Get it to expand. Breathe out and repeat.

Getting used to breathe “belly breathing” will absolutely give you better voice control.

(There are lots of other benefits, too.)

Get a deeper, more masculine voice

Mmmmmhh… Barry White. Chicks dig him ’cause of his voice, so why shouldn’t they dig you too?

Simple exercises to get a deeper voice

• Say “ooooohhmmm” as deep as you possibly can. Try to hold it and really feel the resonating feeling in your stomach. This is the feeling you want when you speak.
• Saying “aaaaaahhh” also works to some extend. Experiment!
• Blow out candles.  Try to use short breaths while at it.
• Yawn. Perfect for relaxing the muscles so you won’t sound so uptight.
• Speak from your belly.
• Practice that breathing!

Relax

Relaxing is key. And this is where all the ends get tied up – fully relaxing is easy if you’re confident in the environment.

If you’re not, you’re most likely going to be a little uptight. Try not to.

Start breathing instead!

Conclusion

So guys I hope you could use these tips.

Generally, just try to know what you’re talking about. Stand straight while at it and don’t forget to breathe. Talk a little louder and a little deeper than you’re used to. And use hand movements to add to your points.

Good luck. And I’ll see you in the comments!

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So we all know that movies can be great entertainment. With a friend, with a girl, with yourself, whatever.

But they can also be an incredibly useful learning tool – you just have to know what you’re looking for.

So I have dugg out 2 movies for your to watch.

The guys in them all have one thing in common – they are naturals when it comes to attracting and seducing women.

Casino Royale

The latest James Bond flick. Babes, action and poker. What more can you ask from a movie? James bond is über cool from start to end, and he delivers a lot of invaluable lines and a lot of cocky attitude. On top of that, Daniel Craig also plays the role surprisingly well.

Pay speciel attention to… The scene where James offers to drive that spanish-looking girl home. He takes her out to his car, drives around in a circle, and ends up… sleeping with her. The whole driving scene is priceless, I can’t remember exactly what he said, but I do remember laughing my ass off.

The scene with Vesper (Eva Green) at the check-in at the Casino (Royale) also shows off some pretty good examples of the bad boy attitude. Their first meet up in the train is also great.

Daniel Craig’s clothing is also something to look out for. I’m not sure if you can handle the speedos, but the rest of it is top-notch. Laid back, cool and classy. I especially like the polo that he’s wearing while he’s in Italy – you can check it out here.

Ocean’s Eleven

George Clooney plans to rob 160$ millions, from a casino vault better protected than most nuclear silos. And gets Julia Roberts while at it.

Pay speciel attention to… Every scene with Brad Pitt. His attitude and lines are some of the best I’ve ever seen in a movie.

Every scene with Brad Pitt and George Clooney together. Take notice of their body language and the way that they speak. Long pauses added for mystery and coolness-factor.

The way that Brad Pitt always seems to be eating. His hands are never completely dead, always doing something.

The way that they use eye contact. Especially George Clooney when he is talking to his (ex) wife. Always warmth in his eyes and a sly smile on his mouth.

Basically every scene in the movie can teach you something, if you look after the right things at the right moments. Terry Benedict is also kind of bad ass. In a mafia kind of way. I like his style.

“Tess (Julia Roberts): You know what your problem is?
Danny (George Clooney): I only have one?”

Bonus movie:

Wedding Crashers

I just saw this today, and I thought I should share something with you.

It’s a technique Vince Vaughn uses when he is about to kiss a hot redhead for the first time.

The scene is at the beach, about half an hour into the movie.

It’s basically him saying that we’re all “one”, and therefor our bodies are all the same. He takes her hand and says that her hand is his hand… Bla bla bla, you’ll have to see the movie for the rest.

It looks pretty effective, I’ll have to try it out sometime.

Wedding Crashers by the way is hilarious, if you haven’t seen it, I suggest you do. Whether you care about a “kissing technique” or not.

So go out, rent the movies, and learn while you’re getting entertained. Simple as that.

Rock hard,
Alex

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Who wouldn’t love to be the guy that every girl stares after? You don’t have to look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney to be attractive in women’s eyes, although it would help, it isn’t necessary. You just have to have a certain attitude to life; that’s all.

In this post I’m going to give you 12 Effective (and Slightly Badass) Ways to be the Sexiest Guy in the Room.

1. Carry yourself slowly.
Separate yourself from all the men rushing around by carrying yourself slowly where ever you go. Pick up your wallet slowly, turn your head slowly and kiss slowly, all with grace and power. Women will immediately notice your aura of sex appeal.

2. Relax, lean back.
Be confident in yourself, and let it show through by being relaxed and not anxious.

3. Hold eye contact for longer time than comfortable.
If done right this can be a huge turn on from across the room. Don’t come across as a stalker, though.

4. Smell good.
A no brainer, really! All women are attracted to a good scent.

5. Do things you love.
You will never look calm and sexy if you are at a place that you don’t wanna be. Be a man, and do the things you love.

6. Smile.
Few things are more attractive than a genuine smil.
7. Be a gentleman.
Always hold the door, pull out chairs, etc. So easy, yet so many men don’t do it.

8. Be yourself.
Don’t pretend to be someone else. This is really important; you need to keep your congruence. Be consistent with your thoughts and actions.

9. Keep the sparkle in your eyes.
They say that the eyes are the mirror to your soul. And if you want her desire, you need to have burning hot eyes. Practice smiling just with your eyes, it can be very powerful.

10. Have good looking skin.

11. Be well groomed.

12. And follow my fashion advice.
(Soon to come)

Follow these 12 Effective tips and you will soon be the sexiest guy in the room. If I’m not in it at the same time, of course!

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Most guys lean in when talking to and approaching girls. They do it subconsciously, but by leaning in, you’re not only making yourself “lower status” than her, you’re also showing off insecurity, which is a bad thing. So here’s my simple tip for today:

Start leaning out instead of leaning in!

Simply lean back, be relaxed. This commincates a very attractive “I don’t need you” attitude, and forces her to lean in towards you, which tell her friends and everyone around you, that you are a “powerful” man, and that she is interested in you. And last not but not least, your voice will be deeper, and more masculine.

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