Accept Yourself: How To Let Go of Bad Emotions and Feelings
Ever had some kind of mental thought loop running through your mind, again and again?
It could be about a desire; you know you’re not supposed to think about it, but you still do. You try to distract yourself for some time, but it keeps coming back.
It could be about an ex girlfriend. It could be an image of your naked grandmother you got printed in your mind when you walked in on her in the bathroom. It could even be a song you just can’t stop humming.
It could be anything or everything that you keep denying and suppressing.
Letting it go
Basically what you’re doing when you’re denying a thought is that you reinforce it and make it stronger – because of the fact that you let it have power over you. The thought starts controlling you.
Control the thought
Turn the tables on the denying and follow the words of Jesus:
Turn the other cheek.
Accept the thought! Accept the feeling! Accept the emotion!
Let it take over you completely: Hum the song non-stop, keep thinking about your naked grandmother, cry over your ex – accept yourself!
Don’t deny or suppress any thought or feeling or emotion – let it all out. Suddenly there won’t be anything left.
Cry or yell, whatever you feel you need to do. It doesn’t matter. Just do it.
What happens when you do this is that you take the responsibility back for your own body and soul.
You reclaim yourself
Suddenly, you’re the one in control. Not the thought. Not the feeling. Not the emotion.
So try this out the next time you’re denying something: Accept it instead.
This also works if you think you have a physical trait that you don’t like – maybe it’s a big nose, maybe it’s acne, maybe it’s a scar, who knows.
Try to just accept it. Say to yourself: You know what? I don’t give a fuck. This is ME. And I’m cool with it. I accept every inch.
A personal story of accepting and denying
When I was younger, I didn’t really like my smile. I had these vampire teeth, you know, a crooked smile.
I kept denying my smile; I wouldn’t smile. I always tried to hide it.
But I wasn’t happy, so I knew I had to change things. You know the best way to change things? Turn it all around.
So I did the opposite – I smiled all the time. I said to myself that I had the most beautiful smile.
And you know what?
People started telling me I had a great smile!
And I started to feel great about it. I loved my smile – and suddenly I had changed the loop.
What you can learn from this story
The relationship you have with the world is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself. Think about it.
In reality, this is what confidence is all about. It’s the subtle things. The way you hold a glass, the way you write with a pen, the way you walk.
All this happens by itself if you feel good about yourself. Sure, you can “fake it until you make it”, but why should you?
Wouldn’t you rather be a confident person, and have all the subtle things work for you, instead of working for the subtle things? I think that’s a better approach.
Accept everything. Accept yourself.
Just try it and let me know how it goes.
Thanks for reading!
Let me in on your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. I always love to hear from you guys.
And by the way, if you liked this post, you might also like my post Don’t be afraid of fear – make friends with it.