Comments on: 7 Ways to Stop Waiting For Your Ex to Text or Call

By: Jenna

Jenna — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 18:58:31 +0000

Getting over an ex is difficult- especially if the ex is someone with whom you had intended to spend the rest of your life. However, as with everthing, God can (and does) heal all wounds in time. But, that is only if you are truly willing to let go and are open to new possibilities.
I know I will someday love again- I know this and am as sure as I am of the nose on my face. Just because I cannot see it perfectly (as it would be impossible unless I look in a mirror), I know it is there.
I have had some fun dating. I have met some interesting men and some genuninely disappointing guys (many of you know the difference :)
I have set some rules for myself- 1. no one is perfect, thus no one can fulfill all my expecations.
2.- no one is the same nore wil treat me the same as the man to whom I had been married and is the father of my children. It is unfair to compare.
3.- I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. If the man with whom I am with is unable or incapable of appreciating me for the woman I am, I cut the losses and move on.
In my opinion, they have become exes for a reason.

By: Guy

Guy — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 16:37:35 +0000

After 2 months of blaming my self for what I did or didn’t do in 7+ year meaningful relationship, I’m finally on the other side of the wall and its wide open (a few scrapes and bruises, ego etc). I definitely was a participant in the structural failures of our relationship therefore I believed we could fix these problems together, (together never came). When my EX girlfriend was conflicted between me and space for 6+ weeks, well, its time to move on because she knew exactly what she wanted. She deserves happiness and I hope she found it finds herself well. Add another 2 months of no contact and it became very clear to me why I’m over the wall. In other words, being dumped comes in many disguises. So if she still loves me, its not strong enough nor worthy of climbing back — I’ll keep moving forward.

The loss of my lover, my best friend and her family is still a powerful emotion over me however, I’m a better person for it all including gratefulness! The path on this side of the wall is still cloudy with a chance of tears but ray’s of sunlight peak through. I’ll never stop loving her nor will I forget… I’ll just deal with it in different ways as it washes to shore. The time has come to take off the shoes and feel it as I walk.

Things could always be worse, I have my health, family, friends a good job… … Its amazing how many women are out there with the same circumstances– the future is bright!

There is a price we pay for vulnerability, it sometimes very very painful…I believe without it, we limit our chances for joy and happiness.

~Peace

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By: Gerald

Gerald — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 18:20:36 +0000

But what if the other person loves you too? I say you SHOULD contact him or her and let him/her know how YOU feel. Because miscommunication is the root cause of most breakups! Then walk away and follow the advice above of no contact. Unless he or she contacts you back and tells you that the feeling is mutual.

This has happened to me, and it does put you on a different path…a new door that may lead to happiness.

By: S

Wed, 07 Sep 2011 10:23:33 +0000

This article was really well written and hit home with me. Thanks for the advice!

By: JankinsD

JankinsD — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 09:33:53 +0000

Two and a half months over, I’m still struggling. I Tell my self everyday it’s over and it will never be anything more than what it is, she is my EX. But she wants to be friends and it’s killing me. I honestly think shes just saying that to feel better about herself. because her actions are completely the opposite. I have never felt so much pain. We were the best of friends and it slowly became silent. I’m the type of person to fight for what I love. but how can I fight for something that has cease to exist. it like beating a dead horse.

Not a day goes by where my mind isn’t filled with should haves, would haves, and could haves. And yet I keep reminding myself the fact that it’s over. I hold myself back from sending angry text messages. I feel like I’m going crazy. Life without her is unbearable…

I know I have to make it through the fog or the grey but i am so stuck in it. I have shed so many tears but the rain never ends. My friends make fun of me, they say I’ve checked out or i am just not there. My biggest problem is that I try to suppress like usual but it is not working.

By: jeffery

jeffery — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 17:52:52 +0000

I was in a relationship for 20 yrs we broke up four times and she always ask me to take her back and I did she broke up with me all that time turn my kids and some of her relatives against me made me the bad guy she have no place to go I find a home for her everytime and this she said she is leaving again and I told her if she leave this don’t expecte me to take her back and I constantly want to call and text and she tells me to stop but she is still willing to be she still like to have sex with me confuse one what should I do

By: Leon Grey

Leon Grey — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 18:17:15 +0000

HI Alex,
Thanks for the great advise…I have a few doubts if you can clear them too;
I was in love with a girl some 5 years back…we broke up and dumped each other.She married some other guy and now after 5 yrs of marriage she has filed for divorce and is undergoing separation period.
I dunno why but she shows On/Off interest in me…greets me every time we meet and selectively answers/replies back to my texts and calls. Once or twice I caught her looking at me rather suggestively and in general is okay with me. Though she has not responded or added me to on any of her profiles on any social media sites but offline she is okay. What would you advise me in this situation. Please email me : liquidgray@gmail.com

My sincere regards
Leon

By: jon

jon — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 01:03:21 +0000

Going thru same trauma of acceptance. Can’t let go. Been 2 weeks since we broke up. Tried everything to get her back. ALL THE WRONG SHIT, may I add. Love n miss her dearly. Together for over 2 n half years. I understand most of reasons she left me. I DID mess up by not showing enuff affection. My question is Alex should I throw n towel n move on, or just accept n wait for her to make contact. Dunno if this is what she really wants or an attempt at making me chase her, or one of these tricks to c how much I love her. She is dead set on not being interested at this point n time.. this is great place.. Alex pls help!!!!!

By: David

David — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 21:52:16 +0000

Great article. I am going through somewhat of the same thing. I am a fighter at heart and took the rejection very hard. Its been about a week now of me none stop texting her that “lets give it another go” and “please remember this, and remember when we did that”… The worst part is, is that it was only a four month relationship, she was incredibly mean and rude to me ( there were great laughs tho). I was incredible to her, I told myself to give this one everything. I would send flowers and do EVERYTHING to try and make her happy. So the issue is that I was great, she was shitty, somebody I wouldnt really wanna be with and I have spent the whole week making a fool of myself… probably because of the rejection… I can’t stop thinking of the good times and fun and just want my best friend back. Yesterday she said that she cant keep doing the fighting and sutff and “its done” So I havent tried to contact her since she said that. HELP!! Does the NO CONTACT rule really work , even if I may have screwed it up with this past week of trying to convinve her?? Could she come back?