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7 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Sleep With Your Ex Girlfriend

Should you sleep with your ex girlfriend? Should you sleep with your ex girlfriend?

If you’re thinking about seducing your ex girlfriend (because you’re going through a dry-period, perhaps?) think about these 7 reasons why you shouldn’t, first.

  1. It will bring back old memories
    Sleeping with your ex girlfriend is bound to make you once again think of all your old memories of you and her. That time at the beach, your first kiss, you know what I mean. Even if you just try to do one last “hit ‘n’ run”, the memories will come flashing back some day.
  2. It’s not going to feel the same
    Spending a night in her bed will never feel the same as it once did. What made the sex special is most unlikely gone, and sleeping with her will most likely not be much different than sleeping with any other girl.
  3. You will develop feelings for her again
    It is very likely that having sex with your ex is going to make you develop feelings for her once again. It’s not absolutely given, but in my experience, it is very unlikely that you won’t.
  4. She will become confused
    Whatever the reason for you suddenly having a night together after the break-up, her mind will be running on full throttle afterwards thinking about all sorts of possibilities; Do you want her back? Does she want you back? Was it a mistake?
  5. You will be confused, too
    And you will be asking yourself most of those questions, too, I’m afraid.. Which basically means that there’s a good chance that you end up more frustrated than before.
  6. It delays the process
    After sleeping with your ex it is certain that the process of you moving on and getting on with your life will be delayed considerably.
  7. Different expectations
    The chance is small for you both to have the same expectations of a hook-up. Perhaps she sees it as a sign that you still like her and you see it as a sign that you are now definitely through. Whatever you think, it is unlikely that she thinks the same.

But if you still want to sleep with your ex…

  • Avoid eating together, watching movies or doing anything that resembles a date
    This is a no-brainer. If you want to get back together, you should take action to do so. But if you just want to sleep with her (and nothing else!), don’t make things harder by making her think that there’s more to it than just that.
  • Don’t talk about what you used to have together
    Keep it strictly business. You know what I mean.
  • Never pass up the chance to meet someone new so you can be with your ex
    It’s a very big sign that you’re beginning to fall for her again if you’re passing up a chance to be with someone new to be with her instead.

And know that there is a good chance that one of you (or both) will be hurt. But… if you’re willing to take that chance, go for it. But don’t come back and say that I didn’t warn you.

P.S. There’s also reason number eight: She is not the only hot girl on the planet, the only one that “gets you” or whatever you’re telling yourself. The world is filled with cute girls – so get out there while you can!

2 thoughts on “7 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Sleep With Your Ex Girlfriend

  1. Caleb

    I can certainly sign #6… For months I kept on seeing my ex and yeah, it def. took me longer than it had to to get over her for good!

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  2. Mike

    Very true, holding onto your ex in any way including sex only, closes you off to new relationships with women. And its true that there are many attractive women out there. As long as you know for sure that you don’t want your ex back, should sleep with them

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