5 Perfect places to Take Your Date
No. 1 in the series “What everybody ought to know about dating“.
It was a beautiful day. You were walking on the street with a friend, when suddenly you see a gorgeous woman. There was nothing to do, you just had to cross the street and talk to her. You felt nervous when approaching her, but at the end of the conversation, you managed to get her number. You have come far my friend, but there is still a long way too go…
All this was yesterday, because you followed my advice on (not calling on the same day).
You now sit with the phone in one hand, her number in the other. You want to ask her out, spend time with her, anything. But how do you ask?
You dial the number, and a sweet voice answers the phone on the other end.
This is not an unrealistic scene. In some degree I guess most men have lived through this at least once in there lives, and the outcome is very different from man to man.
For some she may not even answer the phone, be it due to she giving you the wrong number, or not being available.
For some she picks it up, you talk for a minute or two, and agrees that you want to meet again.
For some she doesn’t show up at the place you agreed on. For some she does.
There’s a 1000 possibilities.
And it’s the last one I want to talk about today.
What’s a date?
First of all, I want to make clear what a “date” is all about. Here’s a clue: It’s not about taking a woman to a fancy restaurant, paying for dinner, talk a little about boring stuff, and if you’re lucky, getting a goodnight kiss. Oh sorry, I forgot. And an empty wallet.
(why you shouldn’t pay for dinner)
A date is all about having fun. Getting to know each other. A date should be relaxed and laid back; dinner at a restaurant is neither.
Remember that she said yes to go out with you. It’s no longer your job to make her like you!
Focus on the fun aspect, and the rest will follow. (Bust her balls), make fun of things, talk about (entertaining stuff). Tip: Money, politics, careers and similar is NOT entertaining. Wait till you get married, will ya?
And that’s why you should take her places where interesting conversation is already built-in.
So where SHOULD you take her?
Here are 5 suggestions that you can build upon:
- Invite her to a coffee shop. The setting is great for conversation, and if you find her interesting, it’s easy to go on from there. Be a gentleman; hold the door, pull the chair out, and paying for coffee here is not the same as paying for dinner, and it’s usually cheap too.
- A walk in the park is also great. Feed the ducks, Sit down and talk, hold her hand, kiss under a tree… There are almost endless possibilities here. And outdoor activity like this is very weather dependant, though.
- Go to a mall and say you need help finding an ugly t-shirt. This is great fun! When she picks something up, say something like:”You have too good taste in style! I said I wanted an UGLY t-shirt! Duh, you are not too smart, are you?” Saying all this in a playful tone, making her wonder what you really mean. With this you communicate all the right things, you’re confident, funny and a bit of a mystery. You take two steps forward saying she has good taste but then take one step back stating that she’s not too smart. Great stuff!
- Pick her up and go to a museum or an art gallery. These are usually not the most interesting places to be by themselves. This leads her attention to you! They can be great fun, is cheap or free, and you can even learn something while being there.
- Go to a funky area of your town. You know, where the tattoo shops are located, there’s a lot of underground nightlife, super cool fashion stores and cafes, etc. Most cities have areas like this, and there are a lot of great things to talk about in places like this.
Remember, these were just 5 ideas, take them with a grain of salt. Build upon them, use them any way you like, just remember the key concept. Have fun!
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Nice article, great tips and helpful. Is this a dating guru? lol
Hey FooStuff. A dating guru? nah. Not really, but I do have a thing or two to share about dating :) But thanks for the kind remarks, and be sure to check back for updates to the series!
I was surprised to see the interracial couple in the photo. (Glad to see you don’t discriminate. I know it’s more of an American issue than any other country.) It’s so deeply embedded in the American psyche, even I was gob smacked to see the couple in the photo.
…especially when it comes to dating… interracial dating is still very taboo in The States.
I know this has nothing to do with your post. I just had to give KUDOS when I see things moving in a positive direction!
The couple was interracial? Wow, I missed that until Lucy Dee nicely pointed it out. Lol ! I see so many mixed people nowadays, glad I did not noticed. Back on the subject. Those dating spots except for the last two, sucks.
Hi Lucy, “interracial dating is still very taboo in the states”? Wow. I had no idea, where do you live in the “free country”?
I’m in NYC. I’ve lived all throughout the world. But it was only when I lived in London when I took note of how rampant racism is in the US. There were staggering numbers of interracial couples in LND: east indian and white, black and white, east indian and black–interracial dating across the gamut. Truly refreshing and made me rethink the state of “freedom” (as you jest) in the US.
Hi Lucy, thanks a lot for your comment, it is highly appreciated. This is really interesting, I had no idea.
i’d just like to say that not only did your ideas show lack of creativity and imagination; your second suggestion of calling the woman stupid is a GREAT way to woo her! pity the poor fool that tries THAT approach . . . i’d venture to guess that even a stupid woman would want to turn heel and run.
everso, first of all you are not calling the woman stupid. And if she’s turning around and leaving you, in 99% of the cases, YOU are the problem, and not my suggestions.
You are saying that my ideas “show lack of creativity and imagination”. Well, they are just ideas, and they may not suit you. But I would like to ask you where you take your date(s)?
I enjoyed your article on dating. It is really nice to see that there is a man who gets what going on a date means. A lot of women, sadly, do not understand the concept either. Thank you for your thoughts and suggestions. I also like the rest of your site.
Hi Mary Jane! Yes, it really is a shame, isn’t it? Many men go clueless about women and dating their whole life! Taking a woman out to dinner and “being nice” usually just doesn’t cut it. Thanks for your comment, it is highly appreciated.
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Is it just me or do you treat girls like dogs on this website?
Talk to the girl in a playful manner, but if you happen to throw a bone and she doesn’t retrieve it, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT scratch her behind the ears. That way she just won’t go back to get the bone.
Great dating advice…
l am a good girl searching for a man who know what is call love and caringl am a good girl searching for a man who know what is call love and caringl am a good girl searching for a man who know what is call love and caring
how can going shopping possibly count as a date. or kissing under a tree…come on first date when she’s only met you for two minutes when you got her number…
after work drinks is casual and you can leave after a couple of hours. dinner – there are all sorts of interesting themed restaurants around that provide you with a conversation topic already. an activity then if the conversation doesnt initially some naturally it doesnt matter because you are both focussing on something else. seriously! and if YOU ask her out and then appear to put in no effort it will not be appreciated. like if u tell her to meet u at the tube and then walk around like an idiot for an hour looking for somewhere to go for lunch. HAVE A BACK UP PLAN! Geez!
Lucy, racism is definitely not just an American problem. It is a huge problem in countries like France, especially pertaining to Muslims. They also have issues with “Pakis” in the UK, so I’m surprised to see you specifically call out America as being in its own class in terms of racism, and I really think that’s disingenuous. Most countries in the world have issues of prejudice, though they may not necessarily be related to race but to ethnicity instead (esp. in Africa where there are enormous problems with tribal conflicts).
I see interracial couples every day here in northern Virginia. In fact, one of my good buddies is in an interracial relationship right now (he’s Catholic and white, she’s second-generation Bengali and Muslim). It is certainly not taboo where I’m from; if anything people think it is interesting, though I am sure it is much more difficult for interracial couples in the rural south.
America is one of those countries where the culture varies a great deal depending on where you are. especially when you are comparing urban to rural areas. have to say i am surprised that you didn’t see more interracial couples in NYC, but i haven’t been there in years.
Wow really you put up a picture of a black guy with a white woman that is unacceptable. What is with all of you flamming liberals. I cannot beleive your outright arrogant nature. If you like the idea of a black guy doing a white woman than i guess your article should be that instead of the places to take a date. Blacks are slaves and are nt meant to enjoy the presence of white woman. You need to really take a closer look at this next time you decide to put up pictures like this I hope a black guy banging your white wife haunts your dreams !
Is that what happened to you lol… What does it matter if the guy is black THERE IS A GUY BANGING YOUR WIFE. People like you make this world stupid
I WAS JUST WONDERING , IS IT A BAD IDEA OR A SIGN OF WEAKNESS TO CALL BACK A GIRL AND ASK HER OUT AFTER WE HAVE LOST TOUCH FOR A WHILE… DOES IT SEEM LIKE IM DESPERATE AND I HAVE NONE AVALABLE AT THE MOMENT ??
wow this racist guy sayin blacks are slaves is either being sarcastic or is just plain stupid. Your daddy taught you to hate black people because your mom secretly lusted after black men. You talk about conservatism, but it was very liberal for your ancestors to leave england sir. PS every race in history has been a subject of slavery. Matter of fact I think whites were the first. And do not forget you are the minority in this world. And what is black when there are asians who are blacker than me.
Learn ya history, and speak intelligently or gtfoh
I really Love all you write here!
I’m slightly confused as to how a picture of a black guy and white girl standing next to eachother laughing turned this blog into a discussion about race. I don’t even notice these things, but then again I live in London…and I’ve been to school. Neyney, everyone is a liberal from your vantage point. The subject of this blog is way over your head and you would perhaps be solving 90% of your dating problems by getting an education first. The real slaves are those that bow to convention.
Thanks to the OP for a nice post reminding us what dating is all about, as it is easy to forget sometimes.
a guy that will pay for dinner or anything else is showing that he is whilling to spend money on you and he still has to get her to like you to even go on that seocnd date if someone evertook me to a museum or an art galery i would not be going on a second date with them alot of girls(depends who you are or what you like) like the dinner dates. you can actually talk to them and not just about boring stuff.
Ok…to lucy and alex
idk where you are looking for couples but it is not an issue anymore. maybe to you it is but the united states is very open in that area. Its the LGBT community that is being looked down upon. More people need to focus on that problem instead of interracial dating, which isnt even an issue.
Sorry, but I totally disagree with your article. I like dates to have a bit of heat! Restaurants and cocktails and subtle suggestion (not tacky, but exciting!) And I think it’s really patronising that you think a woman wouldn’t want to talk about career, money and politics and would just want to feed ducks and buy t-shirts. We’re not all stupid housewives – come one, get with the times!!
ive got a question i caled a girl and asked her out to coffee she sounded exited we talked for a good 15 minutes over the phone she said would text me in the morning, i waited for the text but it never came!… its been weeks now idk if i should bother calling her back some advice owuld be nice email is firstname.lastname@example.org
likIts good we get it started with some introduction so as to know who and what we want in relationship….Here`s a little info about me,am spendilove kusiwaa,26yrs old…with brown hair and brown eyes….i am 5’4 tall and weigth about 62 lbs…i am from kumasi in ghana and now in West Africa here ghana my moms country….i have not been working since i just completed my course at school and i am a computer software and i work with a company in ghana .am single looking for good,caring and loving husband to stay with forever.
I like to go out to dinner, go dancing, go to the movies, workout, travel, see new things. I enjoy the simple things like the ocean, cuddling at home watching a movie with someone special, I`m a extremely romantic, passionate and affectionate woman. I feel i let you know more about me,my personality,interests and hobbies…Personality: I am an open minded person,trustworthy,cool,loving,caring,understanding,down to earth…I been straight and want same in return because i wont treat people the way i dont want to be treated….
Interests and hobbies:I like reading, movies, games, brain teasers/puzzles. I like all movies but i cant watch scary movies alone…I also like jazz music but have not been exposed to much of it.I like reading poetry,novels,arts and crafts.My favourites are: sea foods,favourite actor:Angelina Jolie,Fav color:Blue…
e people been honest,truthful because trust is a vital phenomemon.i like people with intelligence and a good sense of humour.
Dislikes:I get pissed off easily at people not trying to be real,i hate pretence and i feel trust should be the foundation of any good relationship.
I am a lips and eyes person… I heard them say that eyes is the window of our soul… I love to gazed at those eyes that speaks to my heart without saying a word… I am drawn to smiling eyes… & lips? And why lips? Because I’m such a big fan of a Kiss… There is nothing in this world that can recreate the touch and the feeling of a long passionate kiss that would melt your heart……I also enjoy lots of Hugs, talking, laughing, Holding hands, finding out that we have alot of things in common.
I am a quality woman who is confident, honest, kind, smart, fun, trustworthy, supportive, loving, loves kids, outgoing, down to earth, friendly, great sense of humor, sociable, respectful (I would always treat you with respect). I have good morals, traditional values, I`m a lady who is a very good listener and someone that you could talk too about anything. I`m looking for a long term relationship and a life long lover. I also want someone that is honest with me at all times…I have attached few pictures of myself and i hope you like them… I think i should stop writting now and i will be waiting for you on IM. Looking forward to our chat.
Tell her the little things that you like about her. Its not always the big things that make them love you more. Its the little things that make them think you pay attention.
I agree I told a girl how much I loved her name “KINDRA” and you would not beleave the outcome
but it all was backed up by the honest and real conversation we shared
its that easy