3 Surefire Ways To Be The Life of The Party
If you are like me, you have been to too many good parties that just wasn’t fun – they may have been for everybody else, but you were kind of miserable.
Not because you had some odd food and had a stomach pain or anything of that sorts, it was more like you were feeling misplaced, ignored and alone.
This might be a too dramatic picture to paint, but you know, ‘exaggeration gains learning’.
So what is there to do about it? Because I think that we can agree that we all want to have fun when we go to a party; otherwise, what’s the point?
Here are 3 surefire ways to have a better, more enjoyable party:
Don’t wait to be engaged
Sitting around like a sweet little girl just waiting for somebody to engage you is a risky chance to take. I guess that this is a no-brainer, but it is what this article is basically about.
Don’t wait or take the chance, engage someone yourself instead.
It is so much more fun to talk to people at a party than to sit alone. And it will only get worse, since you will be most likely to just keep sitting alone if you are already doing it. It is a bad spiral, that can only be broken by you taking action.
The only time that time will help you if you’re alone and miserable is when, and only if, someone sees that and feels sorry for you. There is a chance that the man, or lady, will go and engage you just because you look so miserable.
But wouldn’t you rather be engaged because you liked like so much fun? I know I would.
So don’t sit around and wait.
Get up and talk to people!
This is alpha-omega. It’s easy if you know a lot of people, but that might not always be the case.
It usually for the best though, since meeting and getting to know new people can lead to amazing experiences. Getting used to talking to strangers will also radically push your comfort levels.
So how do you do it? If it feels very uncomfortable or strange for your to talk to strangers, I suggest that you start doing it on a daily basis.
Not in the pick up artist sense that you should stop every cute girl you see on the streets, I don’t necessarily think that that is a good idea.
I would rather have that you engaged the people you meet on a day to day basis.
The girl at the coffee shop? Smile at her. That’s a start. Tell her to have a great day. Even better!
After a while, you can even ask her small, trivial stuff like how the day has been, if it has been rough, when she’s getting off etc. Soon you will find yourself in a small conversation.
Generally start to look people more in the eyes and smile. A smile can go a long way.
It’s time that you stop excluding yourself from the world!
This planet can be a wonderful place if you just let it. Open up – meet the world with a smile and you have come a long way.
Also work on your breath. Here is a whole article on it: Start Breathing When It Matters The Most and Get More.
Now back to the party:
A question that always works at a party is this:
“From where do you know the host”?
Of course you don’t just walk up to somebody and say that. Or actually you do, but you start by saying hi. You look him, or her, in the eyes, smile, and then ask.
If it’s a group, a surefire question to ask is also this:
“From where do you know eachother?”
More than often, you get some interesting stories. Ask some questions based on those, and be really interested! It’s super important to listen to what people have to say.
One of the things these two questions do is that they get a momentum going.
People will notice you talking to people, and will suddenly also want to talk to you. “Who is this guy, talking to everyone?”
Be a cool guy
Don’t be creepy at all, just like everyone else you are there to have fun.
So just be friendly, being nice can go a long way. And be very polite.
Cool doesn’t mean that you brag about yourself or the car you own. It doesn’t mean that you only talk to the hot girls.
It means that you talk to everybody. It means that you listen, and that you engange. It can very well mean that you draw other people into your conversations.
These three habits sound so simple, it’s almost stupid. But sometimes you might need a reminder, especially here right before the weekend.
If you are not waiting for people to engange you, but instead are getting up and talking to them, while at the same time being a cool guy, it can’t go wrong.
This works best at smaller parties though, where you at least know one, or two or three people.
Engaging people in bars and clubs is a little different, but in the end it’s all about getting up and doing something about your situation if there is something you are not happy with.
So if you ever catch yourself just wandering around the club, or sitting and staring blankly into your beer at a houseparty, get up.
Get up the second you start feeling bad, and talk to somebody. Anybody!
It can’t really be worse than sitting alone, can it?
I don’t think so. Talk to people. That’s it.
Hope this served as a little reminder to you guys, don’t forget it. And if you do, just come back here J
Tell me about your thoughts or party tricks in the comments. I’m looking forward to hearing from you!
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